Be Brave

By , SparkPeople Blogger
I can't tell you how many opportunities I've passed up because I've beaten myself down before I've even had a chance to go for the brass ring.  In the past, instead of losing weight, I resigned myself to failure almost every time.  I could not believe in myself or be brave enough to face the obstacles on the long road ahead.
 
I remember my first act of bravery.  I went outside for a walk and passed a car wash, where all of the guys laughed and yelled.  I was in tears.  Didn't they know how much bravery it took for me to go out in the first place?  I turned around and was headed home, when I decided that they could not determine my fate.  I walked back to the gas station, tears in my eyes and told them exactly how I felt.  It wasn't nice of them to make fun of me and make me cry when I was only trying to improve myself.  They apologized.  I went home and cried and quit walking.  It was brave to confront them and I needed to do that in order to secure my place in the world, mentally.
 
Being brave isn't just about confrontation, though.  It is about taking chances and doing new things.  CRAZYMAMA46 always comes to mind when I think of bravery.  She has lost more than 200 pounds and sky dives now! 
 
I remember when I first started going to the gym and everything was new.  It was scary putting on a bathing suit, and it was also scary trying the new machines.  Little did I know that one day I would be able to do bigger and better machines and floor yoga!  It came with a price of resting for days in between, but the mere act of doing it strengthened my resolve.  Each time I tried and succeeded at something new physically, it felt as if doors and windows in my mind flung open and sunshine poured in, promising a whole new world.
 
Bravery can be much more subtle and personal.  Have you given up on yourself because you are afraid to fail again?  I had. I ended up at 460 pounds and was resolved to stay there, rather than suffer the slings and arrows of those who would see me fail another diet attempt.  BE BRAVE!  If you refuse to be brave, you are taking yourself out of the game before you ever have a chance to play.  It's called avoidance.  Been there, done that.  It's a ticket to living in your house and gaining weight rapidly.  You start becoming more private to avoid the pain of confrontation and start eating to avoid the pain of loneliness and stress.
 
SparkPeople is here for you!  The people are here for you.  If your old life isn't working, create a new one.  I have.  Many SparkPeople friends I've met in person spur me on to do great things.  I minimize contact with the energy drainers.  If you've ever tried making new friends as an adult and minimizing contact with people who drain you, you know the bravery that takes.
 
Be brave for yourself.  You are worth everything.  You are precious and valuable and worthy of this life granted to you.  Be your own knight in shining armor, your own best friend, and your own advocate.  Be brave.
 

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Comments

KHALIA2 11/15/2019
I applaud you for your bravery, now to work on my own! Thanks for sharing this one! Report
RAZZOOZLE 10/27/2019
thank you Report
SNUZYQ2 10/6/2019
Beth...your voice of experience is so beautiful - and you express it exquisitely in writing. Thank you for this moving blog! Report
BONNIE1552 9/24/2019
Thanks. Deep grief is a situation that requires much bravery from me. Some days I just don't have it. I'm working on that little by little. Report
ILOVEROSES 6/7/2019
Thank you Beth for your inspiring blog. Report
PATRICIAANN46 5/7/2019
You have inspired so many of us in the past and you continue to do so. Thank You. Report
2BDYNAMIC 4/28/2019
Good for you Beth in confronting those rude and insensitive guys who
laughed! They deserved to be confronted! Report
SXB990 4/16/2019
Great article Report
KHALIA2 3/1/2019
Great article! You



























Great article! You Rock!



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YOGINILISA 2/14/2019
Thank you Thank you 😊 for this article! Yes, people can be very cruel and heartless-- but ignore the haters! There are plenty of "lovers" in the world and a positive, loving demeanor will attract those people. More power to us!! Report
KOHINOOR2 2/13/2019
Awesome!!! Thank you! Report
BOOKNUT52 2/2/2019
This is such an encouraging article...thanks. Report
RYCGIRL 1/26/2019
thanks Report
Thanks Beth, you are inspiring! Report
ROBBIEY
amazing read Report
GREYTDOLPHIN
Thanks Beth. I needed to read your blog today, when I met my dreaded MIL for the first time in a year. She has called me behind my back a fat_ss and been exceedingly cruel. My weight loss specialist doc told me to not let her affect me, said to just wish her well. Her bad health habits like drinking too much and smoking have led to 3 embolisms. She still doesn't follow the doc instructions. Today I had the courage to not confront that pitiful person, to just smile and wish her well. She'll need it. Somehow she has lost her power over me. She's an ultra-drainer. You're so right. Report
What a poignant and honest article. So true to those of us who suffer in silence as we hear comments right to our face about how heavy we have become. No one has to tell me I am overweight. I am quite aware of it and each critical comment cuts me to the quick. When I am with someone and they make a rude comment about someone else’s weight it hurts. Are they saying that about me behind my back? Be brave and stand up for your dignity. Thank you Beth. What an inspiration you are to me and so many others. You give us hope and strength to persue what we all want. A normal, healthy life. Report
Thanks for sharing Report
Thank you for sharing your bravery. What courage it took to confront those men. Good for you. Report
I can be BRAVE! Report
thanks for sharing hugs Report
This article is the best! Report
RUBYREDSTAR19
Needed this today! Report
Well said, Beth! Report
Very inspirational! Its hard being overweight. Its hard losing weight. Sometimes we have to choose to do what's best for us. People aren't always that supportive. That's another thing we have to overcome! Report
I remember when this happened to me. Literally took years before I'd go walking outside again. Report
What an inspirational story. You are very brave and have come far. I am looking forward to doing the same. Thanks for sharing your story. Report
RINGINO
Wow. Great story and you are incredibly brave.
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That was so beautifully written. Thank you for sharing this; it is inspirational! Report
Thank you, I need to remind myself of my inner strength constantly. I only have myself as support and when I hear harsh remarks I lose a little bit of confidence. Report
Awesome! Thank you for this! Report
CRAMPERELLA
Being brave in a world that despises fat people is a radical act! You rule! Report
This about brought me to tears. Being brave is something I struggle with daily. Report
SYLVIA15050
Thank you for this great blog. It's exactly what I needed...right here, right now! :) Report
40FRECKLES
Be brave for myself....I like this idea. THX Report
Great blog, thanks for sharing! Report
Thank you. I tend to let people know how their treatment made me feel (depending on the situation). We are not just here in this universe to sling arrows at each other. We're here to learn. You have to choose your battles though, I agree. I am saving this article to my favorites. I will need to read this from time to time. Very inspirational! Report
You are woman...hear you roar! Report
It's true. Bravery is a requirement for any life-changing adventure. And what an adventure this is! Life-long habits are evolving-- exercise, healthy eating, and attitude. And learning so much about ourselves along the way-- which leads to new adventures. Bravery. Definitely a requirement. Report
Absolutely amazing....as usual!

Great Advice, this is a scary journey sometimes, BE BRAVE and COURAGEOUS enough to keep moving! Report
ACICEDA
Way to rock it! Awesome motivation. Report
awesome blog! Report
Beth, when I read about people laughing at you when you walked past the car wash, I was angry. You talk about being brave when you when out for that first walk... I think you were MOST brave when you went out the second time. You are an amazing woman, and a great inspiration. Because of your blogs, I'm back on track again. Thank you!
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THENEWROSE
Thank you for sharing! Being brave is something that I definitely need to consider more. Making major life changes as an adult is very difficult. Report
CINDYG85
We all have to start somewhere& it took a lot of courage just to get out there!But it took amazing courage to stand up for yourself.You were much stronger than you ever thought!So glad I read your blog:) Report
A wonderful blog and timely for me. Thank you, Beth, for sharing your story with us. Report
way to go.. I always tell myself that jesus loves me no matter what anyone says!!! Report
Such a lovely article! And you know, I never really thought about the fear/courage component of losing weight. But its true, I'm so afraid of failing that I've given up more times than I like to recall. Thanks very much! Report
Beth, so glad you stood up to them and your personal demons. You go girl! Report
MARYAE1
Thank you so much for your blog. Your story has really inspired me. Report