Confession: Getting Older Really Stinks, but I Guess it Beats the Alternative

By , SparkPeople Blogger

Last week I celebrated my 48th birthday. While for many of you that may seem quite young, for others, that means I am old enough to be your mom. Either way, I do not like the transformation my body is undergoing! I wish I could say I am embracing this aging process with grace, but in all honesty, I hate IT!

I do not like the way everything is beginning to dry out and sag just a little more with each passing year. It's hard not to notice the fine lines every morning and the gray hairs that seems to be multiplying by the hour. Thankfully, I have a good colorist! My skin is not so moist, my hair is even thinner than it was before, and yes, sometimes I awaken with a few more aches and pains than I remember just a few short months ago.

And let's not talk about the "where's my reading glasses" scenario. Yes, I was the one who was going to defy presbyopia--defined as 'old eye' (I am not kidding) on a website for an eye doctor. I was the one who planned on aging well into her fifties without needing arms the length of a football field to read the fine print on the shampoo bottle that seemed so big just 2 years ago and now just looks like a GIANT blur. I was the one who was never going to wear glasses like my high school typing teacher used to wear, you know the ones that sit on the end of your nose so that you can still peer at the people you are talking to. Now she was an old lady. I, on the other hand, can't be that old, can I? Well, I have to say I have not defied presbyopia--I own at least three pairs of reading glasses and I always misplace at least one pair somewhere in the house. But memory is a whole different story.

And sometimes I forget that I am actually getting older. During a run one evening just after my birthday, there were two boys around 13 or so riding their skateboards. While I had my iPod on, I could hear one of the boys yell to the other, "let's race her." Well, I thought to myself, "I can't let these boys beat me! Bring it on!" I put these legs into motion and before I got even 300 meters the boys stopped. Thankfully, I was able to round the corner so that I could stop and catch my breath. There was just something that triggered this need to not let these two adolescent boys beat me. Don't ask me why--and it wasn't even my speed work day!

While I can't stop the aging process, I am not going down without a fight. I plan to continue running as long as these legs will carry me. I know menopause is just around the corner--OH JOY! And in two short years I will be eligible to sign up for my AARP card, which means I can treat you all to a Denny's breakfast for a discount.

Funny how kids are so eager to grow up and the older we get, we want life to slow down. Either way, it's out of our control, so I guess we better enjoy the ride while we can.

How do you feel about growing older? Have you learned to embrace the aging process? What do you think will make you feel old?


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UROPA31 5/4/2020
Every day above ground is a good day! Report
BILLB000 4/30/2020
Not much about aging 'sucks' for me. I am 70, a stage 4 lymphoma survivor, and regard my years with gratefulness. Be a good listener, surround yourself with friends, live mindfully and healthfully , and the chronological age will not matter. You will have quality of life at any age. And you won't have to feel like you need to race kids on skateboards, unless ,that is, you are having some fun as you do it. God bless you on your journey. Report
BILLB000 4/30/2020
Not much about aging 'sucks' for me. I am 70, a stage 4 lymphoma survivor, and regard my years with gratefulness. Be a good listener, surround yourself with friends, live mindfully and healthfully , and the chronological age will not matter. You will have quality of life at any age. And you won't have to feel like you need to race kids on skateboards, unless ,that is, you are having some fun as you do it. God bless you on your journey. Report
MJLUVSANIMALS 4/11/2020
The 70's are when u notice stuff is starting to happen. Your too young at 48 to feel aging. Embrace it while u have it. Report
MAREE1953 4/2/2020
Longevity is the new buzzword for us baby boomers who plan to stay healthy and active in our second half of life. Report
NEPTUNE1939 3/27/2020
ty Report
ARCHIMEDESII 3/22/2020
I saw a great birthday card for those turning 50.

I'm not 50. I'm 30 with 20 years of experience. LOLL

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PREMAMEHROTRA 3/22/2020
I turned 62 in January and I have come to a stage when I want to be remembered for lessons I left behind and for the differences I made and not my looks.
I exercise on a daily basis, eat moderately, try and get adequate sleep and I still work.....my mind and my heart have no complaints about getting older. Report
ADRIENALINE 3/19/2020
I'm 68. Get over it. Report
WHIMSY88 2/24/2020
I won't even give such a nasty article title a cursory look. Guess it's time to opt out of SP if they've chosen to be youth slanted. What a shame... Report
LBST201 1/26/2020
I wish we could opt out of seeing stupid articles like this. Report
KATHYJO56 1/20/2020
I agree with this whole thing. I love it. Report
CECELW 1/16/2020
I love some of the comments left on here from some of the older members. Their wisdom and courage to face aging is awesome Report
BONNIE1552 12/27/2019
Getting old is still better than the alternative :) Report
BOBBIESOCKS-46 11/18/2019
Oh! I thought that was just a number. I Love may sliver hair and how everyone is so attentive to me when I'm about to climb a ladder or lift anything over 20 pounds. Seriously though, I feel fine about it now. I didn't a few months ago. On Oct 26, 2019, I made up my mind to take charge of my lifestyle. First I Stopped eating Sugar to get my blood sugar down from 250/300 range and that only took 10 days to get it down to 100. Plus, my blood pressure has come down too. I had already stopped smoking two years ago on 11/10/2017. I have lots more energy and my mood has lifted tremendously since I started eating 4 to 8 cups of greens a day and No Sugar at all including starches and reading labels. I started drinking Turmeric Tea a year ago too. I feel 15 YEARS YOUNGER.!.!.! My DH said I look younger too. He's a bit prejudice though. Report
LEANJEAN6 11/5/2019
mind over matter Report
TUTUNAN 10/22/2019
When I get old, I plan to gracefully accept the changes that come with age. I will be 86 next week, and I'm still going strong. Report
REDMANCHRONIC 10/2/2019
So...how do you feel ten years later?? Report
DRMOM4U2 8/13/2019
As a physician and an older woman I cannot believe how discouraging and one sided this article was!! I am 66 years young, and have learned to accept this part of my journey. But here are a few reasons- among many I found this discouraging: 1. Women age 50+ are competing in increasing numbers and WINNING in fitness competitions- bikini and all;2) repeated studies have demonstrated that of any age those in the 50s abd 60s plus benefit MOST from consistent exercise and weight training; 3) a study of cyclists 50+ compared with 35 year old counterparts found that those *who trained regularly * matched their 35 year old counterparts in muscle strength and endurance and finally people over 50 -on balance- have learned to navigate and balance life’s demands.
In summary yes aging is challenging but it’s not doom and gloom. Like much of life it’s what you put into it- while I’m challenged to lose my extra pounds; I’ve still finished 4 half marathons (race walking) , volunteer as a shepherd and can flip sheep and muck out a stall and swing a pick axe for hours. I stopped competing with my 25 year old self- instead I’d rather focus on BUILDING my awesome 90 year old self- one who will still squat with 100+ pounds and encourage my patients to build their dream 80 -90 year old too!! Report
MORNINGGLORY893 8/13/2019
I am committed to treating my current period of life as an opportunity to enjoy the free time, like being a teenager again- except now I'm smarter! Report
BILLTHOMSON 8/4/2019
When I hit 50 I dreaded getting older, but since I've been eating properly and exercising daily I look and feel better than most men my age (68 1/2). what a blessing. Report
ALEX3440 7/16/2019
I just celebrated my 66th birthday and if I can lose this extra weight, then I'll be looking pretty good for my age Report
IRISHEI 7/10/2019
I enjoyed your blog. I am not as young as you but I can relate. After 67 I noticed myself with knee problems and other aches and pains due to arthritis. I just made up my mind to keep moving each day and enjoy life to the fullest. No matter what health problem arises I just deal with it and move on to better health by activity and eating healthy. I do the most I can each day and enjoy life. Being positive has kept me upbeat and enjoying life. Between Spark and WW I really try to stay on top of the best nutrition and keep moving this body, sometimes 90 min a day and other times 30 minutes with classes and walking. I also enjoy my grandkids and have fun with them. Report
CATNAP629 7/6/2019
good article Report
MARITIMER3 7/2/2019
Good heavens... I’m 75 and still having a great life! Relatively healthy, relatively stable financially; some problems like everyone else. Looking forward to a few more good years. Report
I loved reading this post.I'm turning 48 on the 26th of May. I'm aging gracefully with blended silver strands my youngest adult is about to leave for college making me an Empty Nester and just looking forward to this next chapter called Life. Report
This article is almost 10 years old now. I’d like to hear how the author feels 10 years later. I’m good with where I am and who I am at this stage and age of my life! Report
I feel fine about growing older and I'm 100% not happy to click on this app to find this rather depressing title. Report
Yes, some aspects of getting older are not fun/enjoyable. #1 would be the realization that my proverbial clock is running out with each day. However, I'm at a point (I'm 59) where I'm comfortable with myself regardless of my weight, or the size of my pants or the wrinkles that seem to spring anew each day.I'm comfortable with me and that's huge. Up until my mid-50s I was so self-critical and not very kind to myself when it came to my personal numbers and my appearance. By the way, I wish I had a dollar for every man/woman that told me I was beautiful. This was criticism I aimed at myself; much insecurity. I don't do that anymore. I wish I had been this kind to myself and relaxed with myself all during my younger years. I am VERY GRATEFUL to older age for the peace it's given me. Report
I am 64 and I agree getting old is not that great. But I am finally back on track to lose the weight I should have lost years ago. One good thing about being this age is that I had cataract surgery and my eyes are like brand new eyes. No more glasses for anything. This is coming from wearing glasses since I was in 6th grade, hard contact lenses since age 14, Radial Keratotomy at 29, reading glasses at 39, then back to glasses and computer glasses since my 50's. So happy now. Report
I am 73 and age is just a number. Staying healthy is my top priority. I was joking with a few friends once that old age stinks. One of my friends who is stage 4 breast/bone cancer told me that I should be glad as 'at least you'll get to see old age'. Won't say that again. Enjoy each other. I don't dye my hair and I have wrinkles. That's me...
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That’s the way to do it. I meant. Report
Sweet sue-1, I loved your comment. That’s the way ofo it Report
Hallo, I enjoyed the blog :-). Nancy you are about 58 this year and I wondered what your thoughts are now about aging? I am 52 and have a hard time accepting how my body changes. Sometimes I joke about it but most of the time I (secretly) I hate it! I swear just last year I looked real good and now photos shows otherwise. To put on makeup it takes twice as much time as before to look natural. Everyone around me says growing old is not an issue and of course I won't tell them what my feelings are! Well, it's news time on tv, let me get my glasses, if I can find them. :) Report
Don't spin your wheels worrying about what might sag or drop off. Live each moment an enjoy it. I have just turned 80 and still love every minute of it, Report
Getting old isn't something that everyone attains. As the title says, it beats the alternative. As a retired 62-year-old, I consider it a privilege! Report
75 and asking the Lord to renew my youth according to Isaiah 40:31. Report
I think growing older affects everyone in some way. For myself, I think about it, but it's ok! Can't do anything about it anyway! I really don't mind cause I don't look 69. I've had some people say that they're astonished that I'm that age. I'm lucky that way. But also, I just don't feel it either. Report
I will be 65 in January. I will give thanks when I reach that milestone. I have many friends who were not given the opportunity to live a long life so I will honor and thank God that I have the chance to do so. Whenever someone gripes to me about old age I always tell them to just remember what the alternative is and tell them they should be grateful not gripeful. Report
I'm happy for every day I wake up breathing. I'll be 71 next week and thrilled to celebrate another year. Thank you for an entertaining article.

Yes, I need glasses, have slowed down and have aches and pains. Sometimes I make noises just to move but I'm grateful just to be alive. Report
It definitely beats the alternative. I will be 65 in January and every morning I wake to see another day, I thank God for that opportunity. You don’t have to get “old” just because you age. Your choices determine how much joy you have in your life. Young or old this will always be true. Report
ARNETTELEE
I'm 65 and retired last year after working for 44 years. Enjoy life! Report
LOVE this! Also love your positive and upbeat attitude. I'm 74 - grudgingly exercising in some way every day and feeling lucky that I can. Even more grudgingly I have just started Yoga for balance so I really needed to read this today because the alternative is an old age that I'm not willing to go with until I have to. Thank you Report
I agree that we really don't have much of a choice but it is sad that we have to deal with the aging process. If you are running, you are doing much better than I am. Report
I remember back when I was young (probably 10ish if that) looking at a calendar thinking I would be turning 42 when it was 2000 and boy was that ever old. Now I'm 60 thinking where did that time go. I'm glad to have my family and my health, glasses since I was 10 and now can't see clear more than a foot in front of me without them) and lots of aches and pains. We always want what we can't have. I'd like to go back a few years. We've struggled and have lived paycheck to paycheck working way too many hours and days. Retirement is not in my future. In reflecting back I don't see that I could have done much to change that. But I am grateful for what I have. Longevity is not in my family so the days are numbered. But I make the best of every day and hope for a better tomorrow. Now if I could just get this body in a little better shape.....off to ride. Report
Enjoy the day before you at whatever age. Report
I wish I was 48. I'm pushing 60. Getting old has given me the blues...quite often. But, thank God for another day. Age is just a number...Or so i've heard! Report
Your 48? You are just a baby! I am 60, have a hip and shoulder replacements. But that doesn't stop me. I hike, walk at least 3 miles a day, garden and want to learn cross country skiing and snow shoeing this winter! Age is nothing but a number. It's about how you feel inside and not a number. Report
I'm almost 71 and still work full time. And I work in a retirement center so I know what is down the road. I have a pacemaker and wear a knee brace to keep Arthur Itis in line. So go for it. Report
I'm 68 and have never been this healthy. I love being older. No worries about work, kids or anything else. Yes, I do get aches and pains but I also did when I was younger. Now I just don't sweat it.(except when I exercise) Report