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The fragility and preciousness of life

Wednesday, January 28, 2009

One of my dearest friends who adores Mallory and I asked me the ultimate question last night: "Can it really be that Mallory Ann is dying??" Stark black letters juxtaposed against the white background made the words jump off of the monitor... And, truth be told it is a very real, honest question posed by someone who wants to know the truth -- but really doesn't ... Because to know the truth means to acknowledge and admit that we all have a finite time on this carousel called "life." I also know that in relating the story of Mallory Ann, My Precious Friend, who I have come to truly love, is reliving unfinished pain and business of a time gone by in her own life, when she loved and lost a fur child; a beautiful white cat who, for a time way too brief, filled her life with joy, love and acceptance that only pets can offer ...

When she and I first met her on Spark, I shared with her my experience and the truth of our friendship -- that there was no accident or coincidence in our meeting; only Divine Appointment. You see, I truly believe that it is by Grand Design that we are blessed and honored by the love and friendship of those who touch our hearts and come into our lives for it is by and through them that we will experience and learn who really are -- what we are really made of; how to grow into and become our Highest and Best Selves .. It is these people who are the ones who love us totally and completely --- without judgment, without condition ... Just Because.

I cannot answer my friend's question because I am not Mallory's Creator ... The One who gave her life and who will, one day, take it away so she can sing sweet, gentle purrs as she plays with an unlimited supply of Kitty Hoot toys "there", as she does here; and when a single blade of grass that catches her fancy for a mere moment, there will be a look of joy and knowing victory on her precious little face that she victorious in her search. This is the blessing of Mallory Ann being "there" one day -- wherever "there" is -- where I know in my heart that she will once again, be whole and complete, no longer in pain, no longer in the struggle.

Mallory Ann's little life is tenuous at best ... And, it is through her life that she has beautifully reminded me yet again, how fleeting our own lives and good health really is; how blessed we are to have a healthy body to navigate through life each and every day; to go about our lives; to carry us to work so we can care for families and ourselves; and how sometimes, in the craziness and busyness of life, we take that for granted; living life frenetically and unconsciously -- day in and day out ... forgetting the fragility and preciousness of this thing called "life..."

My Dear Friends: Please take a moment and hug -- or call ... or send a note -- to those in your life and tell them how much you appreciate them and how much they touched your heart. It is in opening your heart to those in your own life that you will in turn receive all of the love and blessings that you have so lovingly, richly, completely given me...

Bless you all!!
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    Your words, your ways, your gift is shared in what you write and the photo's you take. May God continue to bless you as you honor the gifts He has given you.
    3500 days ago
  • LUCKY13_1984
    hello my dear friend, hopefully this week is going well for you, ive seemed to have fallen off the weight loss wagon as a co worker passed away suddenly this weekend.....just wanted to say hi and you are a beautifl person with lots going for you!! keep up your positive attitude and wonderful advise to ppl!!! i lvoe this post it makes us all so aware of how prescious life really is!!1 what a lucky cat to have gotten the chance to have you as an owner and friend!!! have a great thursday!!! love ~Lindsey emoticon
    3895 days ago
    In the past 90 days I've lost 6 folks I worked with, were friends with or knew. You are so right to take time and call or write and let them know how they have inspired or touched your life. My mom always said "Give me flowers, when I'm living not when I pass". Sometimes just a call to a friend means more than we will ever know.
    3961 days ago
    What BEAUTIFUL photos of your kitty. She is georgeous. Not only is life fragile - she is also beautiful... I love the green in the photo against the white!

    I used to have a beautiful longhaired white cat who looked a lot like Mallory... He had such an amazing "mane" that I named him Judah ("Lion of Judah")... He was an amazing animal. He disappeared one day (I had gone out of town, leaving a hostile roommate to care for him) - and my heart still aches ... I am left wondering if he was picked up by someone who took good care of him, or... I got a tiny glimpse of the horror and agony a parent must feel to have their child suddenly disappear!!! When I had my own children, you can be sure that I kept an eagle eye on them! Pets DO teach us life lessons... encouraging us to celebrate each day with those we love...

    Thanks for the exhortation and encouragement to let those we love know how much we appreciate them. I'll make it a priority today....
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    Comment edited on: 3/1/2009 6:38:01 AM
    the way that you connect so completely with all that are blessed to be part of your life is amazing. from the animals, to the people that share your life in person, and the people whose lives you touch just being you every day here on SP.
    you are indeed a SPARK ANGEL to hundreds, perhaps thousands of people who are blessed in knowing you.
    thanks for your sweet spirit, your joy, your enthusiasm, your honesty, your love.
    you are a blessing, and God has sent you as a special angel on earth to teach others how to see with different eyes.
    thanks for being you!
    3976 days ago
  • CUDDY521
    Dear Joannie, Just enjoy your special times with Mallory & you`ll keep them in your heart.
    I just lost my kitty Misty under the Christmas tree on New Year`s Eve & I will always miss him,he was 15 years old & so friendly to everyone..
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    3989 days ago
    Happy Valentine's Day to you and your loved ones. I hope Mallory is doing ok.

    Take care,
    3990 days ago
  • SUE_2U
    We just recently lost our dear KiaKat... and it's been difficult for me. Thanks for these beautiful words in memory of a beautiful cat.
    3993 days ago
  • BEC_55
    Hello my pecious friend,
    I have been absent for a while. My family was honored to all be together in my parents house when my father passed away on Jan. 31. I am trying to get back up to speed and checked your page. I was intrigued by your blog. You have such a way with beautiful words and sentiments. If you would like to know more about my father - go to my page. I have written some blogs about our relationship.
    3996 days ago
    Hi JO*ANNE*IE~
    Stopped by to wave "Hi!" and to see how you and Mallory Ann are doing. Your spirit and kindness are like rays of sunshine. Grateful and hopeful that everything is right with you both.
    4002 days ago
    My dearest Joannie, you truly touch my heart. I am so lucky to have found all of my parrothead friends and to share their stories, both happy and sad. I sure hope that you feel the love I am sending and the big hug for you and Mallory Ann. Your photography classes are making you a wonderful photographer. This picture is just precious. emoticon emoticon I am sending hugs and prayers your way.
    4004 days ago
  • MIZM20
    Wow, this picture of Mallory Ann is looking right into my heart. And you both have mine!
    Thank you for sharing your talents - photography and writing. I'm all teary.
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    4006 days ago
    Awweee, she is gorgous! Like an angel....thanks for sharing a part of your soul with is hard to have/ watch a beloved pet go thru their later stages of life..I honestly believe that when they get to heaven that everything is wonderful..I know when I had to put my dog down in September it was so hard, the hardest decision I have ever had to make but I know that my grandparents are taking care of him and that in heaven the sun is always shining and there is fresh water, toys and treats etc. They are (we all are) in awsome hands when we get to that part of our journey of life. We just need to live every day to the fullest til we get there and that is what she is doing with you!

    4007 days ago
    Thanks for the great advice & for sharing.
    Mallory Ann is beautiful.
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    Comment edited on: 1/29/2009 10:43:07 AM
    Thanks for sharing your heart Joannie...that pic makes me wanna run my hands through her soft silky hair...

    I love you and I will heed your advice...
    4007 days ago
  • TAMMIE1006
    I have tears from reading your post - My hope is that dear Mallory Ann knows how lucky she is to have you just as you have been to have her as well. She is as beautiful as you are, my friend.
    I lost my first, and most dearest kitty, Boots, ten years ago aready, after having her enlighten my life for 18 years. I know your love for Mallory and know that whether she is here with you physically, or 'there', purring away, you will always have her in your heart, now and always.
    loving thoughts,

    4007 days ago

    Comment edited on: 1/28/2009 9:22:02 PM
    Beautiful post. I completely empathize with you, having lost a dear fur child a little at a time. I know how heart-wrenching it is.



    4007 days ago
    Hi Joanne:

    I believe that our pets will meet us when we cross over. They are too good and pure not to go to heaven. That is what comforts me when I think of the pets I have lost and I hope it comforts you during this difficult time.

    Take care,
    4007 days ago
  • ACACIA21
    Thanks. I will. And I love you too, Joanne. emoticon
    4007 days ago
    I appreciate you Dollface and you have touched my heart in a very special and unique way and so has Mallory Ann. I am in tears reading this, so much to take in and absorb.
    I love this picture of Mallory, she is so beautiful!

    4007 days ago
    I will right now!!!
    4007 days ago
    Wow another great and poignent piece of heart felt writing. Thank you for sharing is on the same thing I have been thinking about lately after hearing about Mallory. I want you to know how much I like and appreciate your fine, honest prose. You know you have my love and support always. God Bless You!


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