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I want an accountability partner.

Tuesday, March 24, 2009

I realized today that it is hard for me to ask for help. I figure it has something to do with growing up as an older sibling in a large family. Everyone(including mom) looked to me for strength, but I had no one. So, I learned to not look outside myself for anything. Not a good thing. I have weaknesses like everybody else. I can get thoughts or feelings all twisted up, or get overwhelmed over something minor because I haven't looked outside myself for perspective. I have been trying to be more communicative with those around me, but I still find myself forgetting. I was thinking this morning that it would be easier to keep up on my exercising if I had someone who I was accountable to and wishing someone would ask me. I came up against my reluctance to look outside myself again. How is anyone going to know that I would like an accountability partner if I never say anything? Am I afraid to show weakness? Asking for help is a learning experience. An opportunity to grow into the person I would like to become. Someone who can give as well as receive. I have a long way to go before I get to where I want to be, but I am getting there.
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  • NEWINSIDEOUT
    I think if you go to "edit my page" you can add "looking for a buddy" to your page and it will come up when others search for buddies. I'm not saying I couldn't do it... but being the big sister, I figure its better to have someone else jump in. The person who commented didn't say she would keep asking you.

    I just wanted to say that I can relate to what you've said about not asking for help. Unfortunately, I've specifically tried to ask for help and often don't feel like I get anywhere. (nothing about you... you've been great). I remember washing my hands of mom when I was first married because I tried asking her about foods she used to cook and she played clueless and totally unhelpful! I have other examples too. Our society has become such a "fend for yourself" one that people aren't really ready to help even when you ask.
    4361 days ago
  • SAM60SUMTHINK
    I'm here when needed. Just pop into the class team, send me a SparkMail or visit me if I seem quiet!
    Meanwhile, ....speaking of accountability and shaking things up a bit...
    You did some solid cardio 3/23, but...
    You didn't list any stretching types of exercises.
    Stretches don't always make it to the list, so the question is:
    Did you stretch before doing cardio?
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    4365 days ago
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