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Who was that other woman?

Monday, May 04, 2009

There's nothing like being confronted up close and personal with one's own crap & shame. It's so obvious to me now, and just months ago, I was beyond clueless.

The weight I have put on and the decisions I've made or the lack of them, really are symbolic of my stuffing 'my personal garbage, all my storage boxes, excess hoarding issues', as well as my excess weight. By not dealing with my concerns, hurt, pain, disappointment, etc, at the time, ignoring them and not being honest with myself, the more the weight became an exteral representation of my many inward personal avoidances & shames.

It's amazing how this job of clearing and cleaning out all the old stuff is revealing to me, which always seemed so much bigger than me, has been going so well. I have a lot of work ahead of me, but not any where as daunting as I had created in my mind's eye over these past years.

It's been slow going since I've had my grandson again this past weekend, well from Sat. afternoon and still have him tonight, so things I could have done, will just have to wait a bit longer. He wants to help and will be a great little helper one day, but for now I wait for his naps or bed time.

I'm a bit in shock right now... at how much is obvious, that wasn't obvious before. How is that possible? Just so strange to me... it's like someone else was living my life... while I checked out over these past years. Where did I go? I don't have any other explanation... it's just a real head scratcher for me.

What must I have been thinking all these years? How far or deep does one go emotionally when dealing with denial and pain, while consistently putting on large amounts of fat?

I know this journey is just a beginning for me, and I can honestly say that I'm so glad to be awake... to be aware on so many levels and I'm looking forward to keeping my eyes WIDE open and focused from this point on. emoticon

Cayden has just gone down and I'm tired... so I'm going to read and take a break tonight. I'll get back to the boxes tomorrow.

Here's my empty and finished picture... I should have taken a before pic, but didn't even think about it. But, I did want this one. It was a 10 x 30 and probably 18 - 20 ft high, and it was stacked to the ceiling for half of it. The other 10 x 30 was filled from front to back, and only half way up the sides.

There are not enough words to express just how good this felt to walk away after sweeping it clean.

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  • JIBBIE49
    I went over 40,000 SparkPoints, so I bought my SparkGoodie YACHT. Let's all have a party, and go out for some fun in the SUN. emoticon emoticon
    3909 days ago
  • ENCHANTEDALANA
    I know exactly how you feel. It's nice to have the occasional epiphany, eh?

    That's so wonderful on your purge of stuff! What a huge accomplishment!

    You deserve a reward. emoticon
    3909 days ago
  • SANDRA-G
    Didn't realize you had such a daunting task. I can relate to this. I've been working at cleaning out the old, unused, unneeded for awhile now. That was one of the things that motivated me to work on fitness because I didn't have the physical strength before.

    I have "decluttering 10 min per day" on my "other goals" so that I look at it every day. I use 2 extra trash bags per week rule of thumb. Getting ready to take my 3rd load to the Salvation Army. Still much work ahead as always.

    Sooooo we're in this together. You've done such a great job. Let's you and I gang up and kick that other woman out of our lives! We'll go to Y&R and slap her, how's that?
    3909 days ago
  • ALEXSGIRL1
    you have been working extremely hard .good for you. you can do this you are a strong women.remember every day is a new begining don't look back unless it is to smile and motivate you to move forward. way to go girl." some people want it to happen, some people wish it to happen,others make it happen" michael jordan good blog emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
    3909 days ago
  • UNSURE
    What a great job you are doing. Soon you will be wondering why it took so long. Keep up the great work.
    3909 days ago
  • LASPOSA2BE
    Great job!

    I know how daunting cleaning up can be. When it's all said and done, you'll be less stressed, which equals less cortisol production, which equals weight loss! emoticon
    3909 days ago
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