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Failure - how do you handle it???

Wednesday, July 29, 2009

I know this is my 2nd blog today and normally I don't blog twice in the same day but I was listening to an old Jillian Michaels radio show (6/14/09) and I just wanted to get these thoughts down.

She said "Failure is the best teacher. If you are not failing you are not trying hard enough. Because we are so afraid to fail it paralyzes so many of us in our lives and prevents us from achieving the things that we want." She also mentioned that we should evaluate our failures and see what we can change or improve upon. Like with most things we have a choice to make. We can either think I am a failure. Look I failed again - big surprise there. I can never do anything. Or we can have an attitude of wow I took a chance how brave of me. What can I learn from this. How can I improve next time.

This is so inspiring and true. I still am afraid of failure and most of the time I am afraid to try new things because I am afraid I will make a fool of myself or I will tell myself that I cannot do that. This is a mentality that is hard to break but I am working through those fears.

A year and a half ago is when it really started. I was afraid I was having a heart attack or a stroke. Thank God that was not the case but it pushed me to go through my fears and join a gym. I was afraid at the gym. I did not know how to do or use anything. I was afraid I would look like a fool. I did get a trainer to show me how to use things and that did help a little but I still always felt like I was failing. I was never as good as any of the other people there. But I changed my attitude slowly. I started to think WOW look at what I am doing. I am walking on a treadmill. That is something I did not think I could do. WOW - look at some of the exercises I am trying and failing miserably at doing but I am doing it a little better than last time.

Then there was the moving on to boot camp. Telling myself am I ready for this? Can I do it? I am not as good as any of the other people there. But I pushed past those fears too and did it.

Then started the running. I told myself I cannot run. I still tell myself how bad I am at running. I started out very slowly and felt like a failure. But I kept pressing on. I tried to do a little better each day.

Next came my first race. It was just a 5k fun run but I was scared to death. I had never run outside before. I had never done a race before. I would make a fool of myself in front of so many other people. Here I was again afraid of failing. But I pushed past it and went and did the race. It felt great. I had overcome my fear of failing and had pushed through again. I am experiencing new things. It is wonderful.

Did I quit when I could barely walk on the treadmill and felt like I was failing - NO. Did I quit when my trainer gave (and continues to give) me exercises that I cannot do or can barely do - NO. Did I quit when I gave into temptation and failed on eating healthy - NO. Did I quit when I started bootcamp and could not make it all the way through - NO. Did I quit when I started running and failed at that also - NO. Did I quit when trying to do those really tough Jillian Michaels DVD's (and failing miserably I might add) - NO.

Where has not quitting and learning from my failures gotten me???? I have lost 125 lbs. I am healthier than I have ever been in my entire life. I am stronger now than I have ever been. I have more confidence now than I ever did. I know now that I can try anything and yes I will probably fail but if I keep at it I will get better. I can say WOW look at what I have done and how brave am I for trying that.

Now, what will I try (and fail at) next?????
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Member Comments About This Blog Post
    What an awesome post!! I don't know how I missed this one. You have a such a fantastic outlook on things and have given me some sorely need inspiration.

    Thanks so much for sharing!
    4097 days ago
    This is so very true. I need to read this today. I keep failing at alot of things too. But I am still here and still going. Very nice Jorie you hit the nail right on the head!

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    4161 days ago
    GREAT BLOG! My sister's motto is, "Dare to fail gloriously!" and I think it's a good one!
    4191 days ago
  • KAY6672
    What a wonderful and inspiring post! Thanks for sharing your fears and *failures* with us. Too often I think of people who have *made it* as being immune to those kind of feelings, and wish I could be more like them. Turns out I am! I just have to keep pushing through!
    4191 days ago
  • KAT573
    Thank you for sharing your bravery and experiences working to change what you had been measuring yourself against: OTHERS. Once we focus on where "we" are at, and what "we" can try, for "us", THEN we are able to begin making some serious changes, not letting our minds get sidetracked by "comparing" ourselves to others, but grounding our being IN our "being".

    KUDOS and Keep on keeping on!
    4193 days ago
    Right on! This is a great attitude and great reminder about using failure as a motivator/change agent rather than not trying out of the fear of failing. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!
    4194 days ago
  • LSSNELL229
    Very inspiring read. I'm still afraid of failure but I'm getting better. Kudos to you.
    4194 days ago
  • 46A39P
    As Yoda would say, Do, there is no try!
    4194 days ago

    Hey I liked this:)

    The only failure you have in life, is when you don't try and if you don't try you never make mistakes or learn anything.

    Loved it:)

    4194 days ago
    You have such a great attitude and a great way to help put things in perspective! Thanks for that little reminder! emoticon
    4195 days ago
    loved it! great way to view things and exactly right.
    4195 days ago
  • PATTK1220
    Wow! You are so inpiring! Thank you for the great blog!
    4195 days ago
    There are some many things in our lives that we would not have if people did not persevere after failing.

    Moving past my failures and seeing them as the baby steps of my Ultimate goal has helped me succeed many times.

    Thanks for your post, you truly are inspiring :)
    4195 days ago
    Gave me goosebumps! Thanks for sharing and for shedding some light on the fact that we're all afraid to fail when we try new things... the only thing you have to do to finish is start and if we're so afraid of failure that we can't start... we'll never get anywhere!
    4195 days ago
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    Wow, 125 lbs gone! That and your blog are so totally inspiring. Rather reminds me of the saying I once read years ago; 'we simply fail our way to success!' How very true this is, and you are, of course, living proof of it.

    And my other favourite, winners never quit....and quitters never win!!!

    4195 days ago
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