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My Dad

Friday, September 25, 2009

My son and I went to see my dad today at the hospital . He is not doing well.

He's losing blood from somewhere and has a 7 hemoglobin. His BP is only 80 systolic. He has CHF and pneumonia and arthritis of the spine with fractures.

He was nauseated, mildly confused, weak.

And he is getting poor care. I informed some employees that I'm an RN and things improved. Dad was finally seen by a MD after waiting 24 hours.

I talked to my uncle and he told me some disturbing news about how my half-brother is treating my dad. It's all a big mess and my only concern is that Dad get the best care and be made as comfortable as possible.
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    awwwwwwwwMorticia! I am sorry to hear that! I will definitely pray for him and your whole family! Visit him as often as you can ok?

    hugs & stuff
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    3929 days ago

    so sorry to hear about your Dad .. my prayers are with him and your family.. It is sad you had to tell them you are a nurse for them to take care of him better.. I hope he gets better soon
    3932 days ago
  • no profile photo CD1259906
    You are both in my prayers.

    3933 days ago
  • JUNEBUG1944
    I am so sorry. Not being there constantly is a big worry because you just can't push them if you're not there. I hope he gets better and that you can stay stress-free. emoticon emoticon
    3933 days ago
  • no profile photo CD2514968
    I'm so sorry about your dad.
    May he get the care he needs & heal quickly!
    3933 days ago

    Comment edited on: 9/26/2009 3:44:09 PM
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    Sorry to hear about your dad. My thoughts and prayers are with you, your dad and your family as you get through this rough time. I went through a very similar thing with my dad back in August, and exercise did help me alleviate some stress. Please take care of yourself.
    3934 days ago

    Comment edited on: 9/26/2009 1:25:47 PM
  • LLTS01
    Caring for sick or elderly relative is always challenging. The emotional aspect alone is daunting and then there is the challenge of maneuvering through the healthcare system. I wish you all the strength and patience in the world.

    3934 days ago
    Thinking of you during this tough time.
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    3934 days ago
    God bless your father and you also at this time. I found it very hard when my mom was so sick and I lived out of town. I will pray for you both.. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
    3934 days ago
    Oh Dear, I know how hard this situation is. I'm sure you feel like screaming "somebody do something!" I'm glad he finally got to see a doctor, I hope that helped. Try to take good care of yourself during this time. Rest, meditate or pray, exercise, just be kind to yourself. Stress is very hard on us...keep us updated if you can. I'll be sending prayers and positive thoughts your way.
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    3934 days ago
    i know how hard this is... my life was in turmoil for several months last fall with my father's final hospitalization. It is hard but try to look after yourself through it all. i gained 30 pounds while dad was hospitalized and am still struggling to drop it 9 months after his death. I am keeping you and your dad in my prayers.
    3934 days ago
    Dear dear Tish,

    I am so sorry for all this anguish.

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    3934 days ago
  • no profile photo JANC319
    Your Dad, you and all of your family are in my prayers.
    3934 days ago
    I'm really sorry -- I know this is so hard. I too had to try to deal with my father's care from a distance and had to rely on caregivers and my brother & his wife to inform me - which they did not do very well.

    You have in your favor that you are a nurse ... GOOD for you for telling them that. If you can't be there to visit daily, can you contact someone there daily? Can you set up a web cam there so you can monitor him yourself? I hope you have someone you can trust in the area to be your advocate. Can hospice come in and help?

    Oh I know how hard this time is. Your father is so fortunate to have your love and care. Wherever he is, perhaps there is also an ombudsman or an elder care advocate who can assist? I will wish the best for him and for you... don't be afraid to kick some butts if you have to.

    emoticon Courage, my friend.
    3934 days ago
  • DEEGEE757
    So sorry things aren't going well for your father. My heart aches for you.
    3934 days ago
    Isn't a "7" life threatening on top of everything else? OH DEAR.
    I'm glad you're there for him. I hope they find the source of his anemia and his health picks up for the better, and pronto.
    3934 days ago
    I pray that this all works out .

    3934 days ago
    Wow...what a lot you have going on...take care.

    3934 days ago
    Isn't it a real shame that you had to point out that you were aware that your father was not getting appropriate care. It's a good thing you were there. It is important that as our parents get older that they have an advocate to make sure they get cared for carefully. Best wishes for your dad.
    3934 days ago
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