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DAY 1 - First Chapter of my book

Monday, December 21, 2009

I woke up at 330am to the sound of my cat throwing up. All kinds of thoughts flooded my head as I cleaned it up and tried to get back to sleep. I finally arose at 4am and closed myself in the bathroom to begin my book, "Thoughts and Feelings".

It is sorted in a chart by problems and what chapters to read in what order for what problem- I looked up Worry and it wants me to start in relaxation. I felt like I needed something more so I started with Perfectionism. THe first chapter to read is about Automatic Thoughts. I am plagued by them in a big way. The first step is to recognize what they are.

An event happens- This caused a thought which causes a feeling. Not the other way around. All feelings are caused by thought.

There is anxious, anger and safety feelings caused by thoughts. I have all three a lot of times.

For one week I am to write down on a chart my automatic thoughts to help recognize my thoughts.

Situation:
(When, Where,Who, What happened?)


Feelings:
(One word summaries) Rate 0-100


Automatic Thoughts:
(What were you thinking just before/during the unpleasant feeling?)

So far I really like this workbook. It is clear and I can relate to it and use it as a tool. I had another book I was trying to learn from about not worrying but it was all about preaching about God and I needed more than that for myself to live my life in addition to praising God.

I hope to keep up with this book and really fix my problems in dealing with stress and anxiety. I have started realizing that situations are not causing my stress, my reaction to the situation is causing the stress. My inability to deal with stresses as individual problems in a rational way.



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  • KAYOTIC
    Sounds like a great book and a good plan, how is it going?
    3638 days ago
  • SAILINGCHIC
    Hi JUS911! There are many online free stress management programs you can look at too I found when I did a search for automatic thoughts this morning. But I like books- it is called "Thoughts & Feelings"- Taking Control of Your Moods & Your Life"

    Written by Matthew McKay PH.D, Martha Davis Ph.D, Patrick Fanning

    It's a big square paperback blue and white.

    Most people have this problem but no way of knowing it or knowing how to fix it. My husband gave me guidance as he has had years of counseling- He chose this book for me. I hate that I get so angry at people driving and that I worry about everything including what people think of me. It drives me crazy but I think I've finally found a tool to use to help me. I hope it helps you too or at least opens doors to you so you don't feel hopeless or alone.

    Keep in touch and let me know how you're doing :)
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    3643 days ago
  • JUS911
    What is the name of the book and who is it by? I think I might like to look at something like that because I feel very similar to you - very much in my head which causes negative feelings often.
    3643 days ago
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