Feeling Helpless

Friday, February 19, 2010

I had to take Anthony home yesterday's the day with him and got a chance to see my daughter in law. She is due on March 14 th with my first blood grandchild. It is a boy! I talked with Anthony and all his family members about the problems he was having and how he needs there support and positive actions. Last night around 9 he calls me crying almost in hysterics asking me to come get him. He said they were torturing him , and being mean and that his older brother had hurt him. How do I deal with or except these things I can't change and have no control over. I can't legally take him. I have no legal say at all. I have asked and will ask again that they let him move in with me.His grandfather would allow it. He knows it would be better for him, but grandma is another matter.Iam stressed and torn up .I am going up on Sunday to take care of him and his brother, his mother whose 29 and her newborn so that the grandparents can go out of town for a few days. The oldest boy whose close to 40 goes to federal court for sentencing or trial or something.I tried to teach Anthony to pray when he was here before going to sleep.Prayers can only console a seven year old so much. I see his self esteem suffering and can't rebuild it fast enough being so far away.Iam suffering and haven't been able to get back to my diet program today like I 'd planned. Feel haunted by his unhappiness and it bringsback so many memories of my childhood.How can I really help him ???What do I do ???Any advice or suggestions?/
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    Tell Hime You Love him, every time you see him, Hug and kiss Him and just let Him know your heart hurts too. and that
    "He is not going though this ordeal alone"...You are praying to God to work on His situation... for a Miracle... This will give him a Hope and a Dream to hang on too in his-life... to see him though...Grandkids know who loves them the how much we care about them...
    3870 days ago
    My dear, my heart goes out to you and Anthony. If you feel he is endangered you must report it to the authorities. I would pray also but you may just need to take it further.
    3870 days ago
    If you really feel he is being abused, report it to child services. You could apply for custody if the courts feel he needs to be removed from his current home, but unless there is proof of physical abuse, that is not likely to happen.

    Otherwise, there is really nothing you can legally do about it except be a shoulder for the boy to lean on, and pray.

    It's a heartbreaking situation, and I'm sorry you are going through it.
    3871 days ago
    I really don't know the situation but reading your blogs, I would say it's a social worker case. If Anthony's mental and physical being are in jeopardy, you should try to let the social services of the State know. You could do it anonymously. Eventually a court's case would come up where you could ask for legal guardianship. You might have a chance at it especially if Anthony wants to stay with you and says so to the judge. Otherwise it's in God's hands but try to get some free legal advice and seek a social worker opinion as well. Good luck and God bless you and Anthony ! emoticon
    3871 days ago

    Comment edited on: 2/19/2010 4:54:51 PM
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