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Journal 2-24-10

Wednesday, February 24, 2010

Good Morning Journal. I actually feel kind of happy this morning, like a weight has been lifted. Talked to my husband last night, he brought a list of concerns once again revolving around my boys and also me and how I deal with them. It basically comes down to he can't handle them. Like it matters he cannot handle any children unless they are his own two his nephews included. He asked me my thoughts and I told him I didn't think me and my boys were the family for him. He asked if we were to separate for awhile or just start the divorce proceedings. I said I don't know. He also told me he is not taking all the blame for this. I told him there is something wrong deep inside him mentioning a few things. However he said to me I don't know what is wrong so what does that mean? It is like he knows it but refuses to do anything about it. He doesn't want to hear it, he says this is just how I am an accept it. Well I put up with it for 3.25 years and I cannot just accept it anymore. I have had enough. He stayed last night and slept in the boys room. He had clothing packed until I came home from talking to my parents. He didn't even tell his yet. He is going to his sister. I noticed when I came home that he didn't have his ring on already. Well that says a lot doesn't it. He came down this morning as we were leaving for work and he said well I guess this is it. He loaded his things that he is taking for now and said should we hug or something, I said I don't know. We did hug then I said goodbye and he couldn't say anything. No tears no nothing. He was behind me on the way to work and he caught up to me at the light where I turn left and he continues straight. He two ways me on the Nextel and says have a nice day. What?! You couldn't even say good bye to me at home yet you can now tell me to have a nice day now. I still had my ring on in the car, I took it off after that. The thing is I feel relieved, like a weight is gone and I can smile again. It sucks that more than likely I will be divorced twice before I am 38 years old. UGH. I now face the daunting prospect of selling a house in this economy and keeping it going until it does sell, and then where to go. An apartment? I don't know how I will do it and it is scary to even think about it, but I will make it through and be better because of it. Now to start the journey of me.....stay tuned.
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  • JEM0622
    Gail...you are such a strong person. You are going to be fine, I know it. Maybe just try to rent it out...unless you want to short sale it? Based on what you have disclosed...he has a lot he does not want to resolve and it spills over into his relationships. You know how people should be treated. Especially if they are family/step family. It makes no difference. emoticon emoticon
    3576 days ago
  • ITSTIMECM
    Gail-you and your family are in my thoughts. What a tough time to be going through all this. An ending can be a great new beginning too! It sounds like you deserve more than you have been getting from this relationship. Change is scary, but you have brighter things ahead.
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    3576 days ago
  • SUZIEQIAM
    Maybe it was meant to be...better that you & the boys won't have to put up with the criticism. Hug those boys close & know that you are in my thoughts & prayers! emoticon
    3577 days ago
  • CHARQ09
    You will be fine, Gail. Recognizing now that you were not going in the direction you wanted to gives you plenty of time to start fresh. I'm sure it is scary and surrounded by uncertainty but stay the course. Things will turn out in the end...
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    3577 days ago
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