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Wednesday, March 17, 2010

Saturday it will be 2 months that I have officially been going with Jack. I have seen him every day and am happy that we found each other. The only drawback is having the memories of the last 2 years flooding my brain when i am trying to forget. It's hard because if I go to the VFW and "they" are there how can I just pretend they are not? I tried to walk by him the other night and he slapped my arm to get my attention & say hello. He still comes in to where I work. Anyone have any suggestions for purging him from my memory? If there was an alternative place to dance I would go in a heartbeat but our choices are limited. I am getting more comfortable in the Moose. I am having a ball doing the car shows with Jack. I know it takes time but it is hard to forget when you had feelings for the person. One day at a time...just could use a few encouraging words.
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    As in all things, time heals.

    And slapping to get your attention, that's not appropriate behavior. Can you tell him, pleasantly, to not treat you that way?
    4108 days ago

    Comment edited on: 3/18/2010 6:16:25 PM
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    You did say Jack is a much better fit for you. It does take time but just look at Jack or visualize him as you speak to the other person. I've had some rough breakups and there wasn't always someone else to be with. You're with Jack every day and the other guy couldn't give you that time and attention. Be glad you are not with him now. It does get easier with time. Is the guy there with just one person or more than one?
    4109 days ago
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    Val - It's difficult to get past someone and the feelings you once had if you keep bumping in him - with him acting like it's business as usual. It will take lots of time, but you will walk your way through it. You seem happy with the time you share with Jack and I am hopeful that as you create more history with him, the "other guy's" former attraction will seem peculiar, like what did you see in him in the first place? To empower yourself, the next time he touches/slaps you to get your attention, let him know he does not have your permission to touch you and you'd really rather not have anything to do with him since he is in your past and you are moving on. You might say Hi, to avoid feeling sneaky, but other than that, it's your way. You chose. I know it's not easy, but you are made of tough metal and can dance through this transition. Look to your future, not the past, there's fun, adventure and affection just over the horizon. Go ahead and claim it! Peace and friendship, Sandra emoticon
    4109 days ago
    Make new memories with Jack and those old memories will fade! One day at a time.
    4109 days ago
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    Just keep on keeping on as my dear Mother used to say.It's hard I know but each day you make it thru, is another day closer to complete healing.Ask God to heal the hurt and then say to yourself every day.."I release this to you Lord."

    God Bless you and good luck with your weight loss journey.. emoticon
    4110 days ago
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