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Stop feeling Guilty

Saturday, April 17, 2010

I have been feeling guilty for everything lately:
- For my Dad's Alzheimers
- For not being super-human and getting everything done at work and home
- For not keeping up with my Sparkpeople goals
- For not setting a good example for my kids
. . . and the list goes on and on.

As I write these things, I realize that I am the only person who thinks I am guilty of these things. Other people do not see me this way (or at least I don't think they do).

I am not sure how to stop this cycle of feeling guilty ( see - I even feel guilty for feeling guilty), but I am much more than these irrational guilts.

I looked up guilt on Livestrong.com
www.livestrong.com/artic
le/14689-handling-guilt/


and found the following definitions:


Feeling of responsibility for negative circumstances that have befallen yourself or others.
* Feeling of regret for your real or imagined misdeeds, both past and present.
* Sense of remorse for thoughts, feelings or attitudes that were or are negative, uncomplimentary or non-accepting concerning yourself or others.
* Feeling of obligation for not pleasing, not helping or not placating another.
* Feeling of bewilderment and lack of balance for not responding to a situation in your typical, stereotype manner.
* Feeling of loss and shame for not having done or said something to someone who is no longer available to you.
* Accepting of responsibility for someone else's misfortune or problem because it bothers you to see that person suffer.
* Motivator to amend all real or perceived wrongs.
* Strong moral sense of right and wrong that inhibits you from choosing a "wrong" course of action; however, you assign your own definitions to the words.
* Driving force or mask behind which irrational beliefs hide.


The last part - mask behind which irrational beliefs hide - Wow! That's me.

Time to take off my mask and be human.

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  • JUSTDUCKY1405
    I honestly think each and everyone of us can relate to those above reasons for guilt! It's hard! It's really hard not to beat ourselves up when we feel we have failed ourselves or others! Especially when the same situation keeps re-occuring!

    Keep faith in yourself and those around you - knowing that we are NOT perfect... although I know we wish we could be... then we would have nothing to feel guilty about... EVER! Isn't that a nice dream!

    Just keep working hard... becoming aware of what brings you guilt... and eventually you will be the 'witnessing presence' to the situations that cause you grief and guilt as opposed to the programmed robot we can sometimes tend to be!

    I still SUCK at certain things in my life... no matter how hard I try... but I AM BETTER and have made PROGRESS in the right direction! You ARE doing this too!

    Remember your nick... that's one of the most important things to remember in this LIFE!

    Hugz and Love!
    3633 days ago
  • GRATEFUL111
    Sounds like a plan!
    3643 days ago
  • no profile photo CD4363972
    Gee, Maria, we are peas in a pod. These are my personal definitions:

    * Feeling of obligation for not pleasing, not helping or not placating another.
    * Accepting of responsibility for someone else's misfortune or problem because it bothers you to see that person suffer.
    * Motivator to amend all real or perceived wrongs.

    I am feeling lots of guilt right now about a coworker that I know you are familiar with. I also share the guilt about not being super-human.

    Let's you and I work on this together!
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    3643 days ago
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