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Tuesday, April 27, 2010

Why would a team like *Accept Yourself* have only 81 members? Especially with uplifting posts like "What do you like about yourself?"

I am finding that people are really troubled by the idea of accepting they're okay, no matter what their weight. I'm not saying that by accepting yourself and saying you like yourself the way you are, it's cause to quit the diet and throw down the towel. But is it really that reprehensible to actually like yourself as you are losing weight?

In a way, it should help the process: I love myself so I want to do the best for it so I will eat healthily and exercise. But I find that people really bristle at the thought of it.

Don't get me wrong--I've hated myself for so long that it's a real challenge for me as well. But I'm committed to getting past it because it's made me miserable for so long.
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  • GAYLLYNNE

    Bristling here! Most of us grew up never being allowed to love ourselves unless we were someones ideal of "perfect" whatever that means. It's awfully hard, after so long of not even looking at yourself to turn that around. I'm really proud of you for trying to change and love who you are. It's great to see you grow like that!!
    3724 days ago
  • BET212
    I know what you mean. Last week I was getting depressed reading other peoples' blogs. There were so many self=haters that I felt overwhelmed. I wanted to hug everyone of them. I know it is healthy to vent and people need to do that safely but there is a difference between venting and beating yourself up. I have had my share of negative moments and self-loathing in life and spent a lot of time working on my issues but am in a good place now. Still, or maybe because of that, it was painful to read.
    3724 days ago
  • BET212
    I know what you mean. Last week I was getting depressed reading other peoples' blogs. There were so many self=haters that I felt overwhelmed. I wanted to hug everyone of them. I know it is healthy to vent and people need to do that safely but there is a difference between venting and beating yourself up. I have had my share of negative moments and self-loathing in life and spent a lot of time working on my issues but am in a good place now. Still, or maybe because of that, it was painful to read.
    3724 days ago
  • RAYLINSTEPHENS
    I would think because no one knows the group exists!

    Negativity runs rampant though so it could be just as you are stating.

    *sigh*

    Just remember, you are on the right track!
    3724 days ago
  • BARCINTL
    Lopeyp: I would love to interpret it that way but from what I've heard from dieters in general, I fear it's not true. I also believe if people accepted themselves, they would want to join to urge others to do so as well.

    Don't get me wrong--I'm not the team leader or anything--but I think it's an important concept, to accept oneself.
    3724 days ago
  • SSDCQUINCY
    Good luck and I know what you mean. Some days I love myself and other days I just don't want to look! LOL. We all need to find what works for us and make the best of it. Good luck.
    3724 days ago
  • LOPEYP
    I guess that you could interpret it as the rest of the people have accepted themselves and don't need the group.

    Good luck with the team
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    3724 days ago
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