Weight Loss Surgery Decision (follow up to Weight Loss Surgery Angst)

Saturday, July 03, 2010

I really want to thank everyone for the helpful suggestions and great support from my last blog. I love you crazy Sparkers!! So here is what I decided.

At my appointment with my GYN she suggested bariatric surgery but by then I had already made my mind up for sure that I would not be going down that path. Here was what I thought that finally convinced me.
1. I am an overeater. I eat mainly healthy food (though too many sweets) but way too much of it. I eat way beyond hunger when I'm out of control.

2. If I get surgery it will EITHER force me to get my overeating under control OR I won't be able to get it under control and I will be one of the people who initially lose weight only to gain it back.

3. If I gain it back then the only thing that has changed is the fact that I underwent risky surgery to eventually be the same weight.

4. If I get it under control that means that I AM capable of it which means I am capable without the surgery and now I have just had surgery on my stomach to try to get a problem in my head under control.

That final one was the clincher for me.

I know that this does work for some people...I just don't think that I would be one of them.

My GYN did ask me to see a nutritionist because she feels like I have an eating disorder. I said that I don't feel like a nutritionist could help me. I KNOW what I should be doing, and eating. I know what percentage of my diet should come from protein and fat and carbs. I KNOW a lot, but it's not the lack of knowledge that's making me fat. She then gave me a referral to a dietician who specializes in those with eating disorders so I'm going to try that. I've never really gotten any counseling for my eating issues.

I also said that I would want to be under 250 before I would consider getting pregnant (she had kind of skirted around the issue of actual #'s because I think that she didn't want to offend me) and she looked releived and said that I would be able to have a very healthy pregnancy at that weight. This all has really lit a new fire under me. That is 100 lbs and I really do feel that I can do that in a year. It is my new goal.

She also did say that my very regular cycles (27-29 days) was a very good sign.

So that's what I'm going to shoot for. I left my Dr's office yesterday and went straight to the gym. I also logged my food for the first time in a couple of weeks AND was well within my ranges.
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    How are things going for you now, some 11 months later? You made a huge, well-informed decision. emoticon
    3525 days ago
    Congratulations on some very good thought and a decision that is going to work for you. It is about prioritizing you. Surgery helps some people do that, some people are able to accomplish every bit as much with solid, consistent hard work (and a lot of support). I wish you so much happiness
    3844 days ago
    I just wanted to chime in and say that I think you are making the right decision

    best of luck with the dietician - use all the tools you can
    3856 days ago
    Bonnie I know you can do anything you set your mind too, Stay focused on your goal and you will succeed. I weighed the surgery options also and like you I came to some of the same conclusions. Our health insurance will not even cover it but at one time it would and I was approved but decided against it.

    I am very proud of you for taking a stand and moving on. I'm here for you girl.

    3856 days ago
    AWESOME! I admire your ability to break down your issues and to believe in yourself enough to lose the weight without surgery. Your tenacity and positive attitude is beautiful!
    3856 days ago
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    It's great that you have made a decision that you are happy with. emoticon emoticon
    3856 days ago
    emoticon for taking charge of your life and taking accountability for the way your life has been going! I know people who have had the surgery, but honestly, I don't think they are eating any less! So what was it all for? It sounds to me like you really want to change your life permanantly! You can do this! Your are worth it! Just take baby steps and don't set high goals for yourself, but rather smaller goals that will increase with time! emoticon emoticon
    3856 days ago
    I applaud you as well for your decision. I had once before about having weight lost surgery, but I decided against it. I think for me in the end I would have thought I was a failure for not putting forth my best efforts in losing weight; empowering myself with the tools I need to reach my goal(s). I'm happy that your going to see an nutrients. Much success on reaching each goal that you set for yourself. You will and emoticon
    3856 days ago
    I am so relieved that YOU are happy with your decision and ready to move yourself forward. I have seen you in action before and I KNOW you can do this in a year. I am here with you all the way!
    3856 days ago
    Woohoo! I love your plan and your attitude! 250 and baby-land here you come. We're here for you all the way!!!!
    3856 days ago
  • KATE_70
    I think you are absolutely right in all your decisions. Sounds like you are on your way to making the best decisions for you, each day. That's the main thing. The best decisions today!
    3856 days ago
    I applaud you for your decision process and really taking a hard look at it all!
    3856 days ago
  • NOREGRET2010
    I have also educated myself extensively over the last 10 years on how to be healthy, what to eat, etc. I also have remained overweight and I went through a recent struggle with wondering about lapband. I also came to the conclusion i didn't want to go there. For me, I realized I am not burning calories - not nearly enough to lose weight. Your post resonated with me greatly, thanks for sharing.
    3856 days ago
    I had complete faith that you would make the right decision for yourself.

    Good for you! I'm sure that you will learn a lot from the dietician and will put what you've learned into practice. Expect great things from yourself!
    3856 days ago
    Wow, way to work through that decision! And the gym right after! I'd have let the Dr. appointment be an excuse to delay. In one year you are going to be amazing! I can tell because you already are.
    3856 days ago
  • PICKIE98
    Wow! You have all the info, got your poop in a group to figure it out, now are willing to be guided by a professional, and are using Sparks for support and accountability!! That is some major growth...

    My friend had a MGB(mini gastric bypass) and she takes so many meds, has major gas all the time, can eat only 10 ounces at a time, nibbles constantly, and she only had to lose 85 pounds!!
    She tried to talk me into it and I told her that altering my innards would not change the fact that I need to change the brainwaves!!

    Your(no pun intended,reallyLOL!) GUT instinct is always right, so use that head to get your goals, not a surgeon!! Spark on Sister-Woman!! I am proud of you!!
    3856 days ago
    Thanks for sharing and following up. It's great that you rally took the time to think it through to make the best decision for YOU! emoticon
    3856 days ago
    Thanks for sharing and following up. It's great that you rally took the time to think it through to make the best decision for YOU! emoticon
    3856 days ago
    You are so right. I have thought about surgery myself, but it would not help. Like you, the problem isn't in my stomach, it's in my head! I have been thinking about getting some counseling to go along with the wonderful diet doctor I'm already seeing. I think it's only been in the past few years that I could recognize that my overeating is emotionally based.

    Thanks for sharing! You have inspired me! Keep up the good work!
    3856 days ago
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