Trial by Fire Parenting

Thursday, August 19, 2010

So for as long as I can remember, and as long as my family can remember, I have never wanted to be a parent. I have always wanted to be that "cool" aunt that my nieces and nephews would come and stay with over summer vacation- the one who has traveled the world and seen a lot of places. The one who always has really fun stuff to do. The one who has lots of dogs- but no kids of her own. My husband on the other hand has always wanted children. He is great with kids- even teaches 2nd grade! He always thought my feelings about kids were just a "phase" that I would eventually grow out of.

Enter a compromise- foster parenting. Now I realize everyone has horror stories about foster care- VERY few people will ever tell you the positive about it- that just isn't how our sensationalistic society works. But I thought we would try it- even though we heard all the stories. These kids just need a chance to be kids and be loved and protected until they can either go home or find a new permanent home. After almost 8 months of training and paperwork and WAITING......... We were finally approved and received our first placement. Now I can't go into specifics about her- but she is a great kid. She is 8- almost 9- and is very well behaved. She misses her family and wants to go home- but other than that she is great. We have a good time with her and try to keep her mind off the fact that she isn't with her own family right now.
Then last night I get a call about another 8 year old- just turned 8 on Monday- who needs a very short term placement. This one has some more issues and because of that I spoke to her former foster mom about her and what I needed to know. Long story short- I was up all night with her- she doesn't sleep well at all- she woke up about every 15-20 minutes. I realize this isn't quite an infant- I didn't have to feed her in the middle of the night- nor change diapers- but the lack of sleep thing- even for one night- was torturous. I don't know how moms (and dads) do it.

So- I just want to let all the parents out there know that I have an ever greater respect for what you do now. I did before but didn't completely realize what I was "missing" and now I sort of understand. I have a broken heart for this child but am glad that for one night at least we were able to keep her safe and help her out.
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    The world does need more people like you. You're a gift to these kids. A window on what life should be like. Thanks.
    2712 days ago
    Wow! I think that taking on foster kids would be much harder than parenting your own. Thank you for being there for those kids. The world need more people like you.
    3747 days ago
    Such blessed children to have you and your husband in their lives for a day, or a lifetime.
    3752 days ago
    Such blessed children to have you and your husband in their lives for a day, or a lifetime.
    3752 days ago
  • VEMAN1
    You might get see them later in life too. One day can make a difference. One act can too! Thank you for trying and doing. Here is to you and your husband. Hip, hip, hurray!
    3752 days ago
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