This IS difficult. My DH can be a good influence - when convenient for him or when he is in his loosing weight mode.. otherwise it is all up to me. I try and just focus on me and not worry about his dinners and work out because I need to on my schedule.
It can be difficult eating out as well, but I try and stick to healthy menu items and not let DH's choices influence me.
I loved reading what everyone wrote. I especially like the give him all the pizza and beer thing & Kick him out!
As far as "if he loves you...." honey, if everyone interpreted a partners eating/exercising habits or lack of as not loving them, we would be in big trouble. I agree with the gal who wrote do you own thing.
At the end of the day, your mouth, your body & your decision. 3603 days ago
if he loves you and cares about and for you he'd give you the space to be healthy. put your goals ahead of your wants.. and find things to eat, or limit the pizza, and drink that will help you get to your goals while he follows his own way 3603 days ago
you just have to keep doing what's right for you, and if he wants to join in, that's awesome, but until then, you can't let it affect you...besides, you are a strong, independent intelligent woman!!!! 3603 days ago
In my case it's a husband rather than a boyfriend, but yeah - been there, done that! In the beginning, it was really hard, but at the same time, not so difficult. I was a little angry with him because he'd been bragging about loosing weight and how he was gonna get skinny bla bla bla and he kept nagging me to do the same. The minute I started, he stopped. That irritated me a little but his "you'll never loose weight" attitude seriously pissed me off. But, being the immature brat that I am, his poor attitude actually helped me dig my feet in and become more determined to loose the weight. Now, several years later, I'm actually a little disgusted by some of the food choices he makes. Just thinking about the calories & fat grams in some of the things he eats makes me feel slightly nauseous. Luckily, we've come to an "understanding" and rather than saying mean, snarky things to each other, we tease (in a loving way) about our food choices. He calls the bread I buy "bird food" because it has seeds on it, or he'll act all silly & excited when I buy him a package of sandwich meat. (I've become a vegetarian and he really, really, really misses eating red meat on a daily basis.) Still, it does take a lot of effort to stay focused on my goal. When hubby starts trying to get me to eat something I know I shouldn't, I try to remember to ask myself, "Do I want to have this cookie/cake/gallon of ice cream.... and be fat & miserable, or do I want to say 'No thanks' and be healthy & skinny." Nine times out of ten, I choose healthy & skinny. 3609 days ago
My bf is a terrible influence!!! Im still working on it! I work hard to think about my meals in advance and I have a mental picture of myself that I think of every time I want to make a bad decision!!! 3609 days ago
OMG!!!! That is so funny! I think knowing why I want to be healthy wins over the bad influences MOST of the time. I remind my self why I eat healthy and why I workout. and log on spark people what you eat and make it public so others can see it. 3609 days ago
Oh my gosh KIm, that picture is too funny (and scary too, lol!) How does one handle bad influences..that's a difficult one. I think one of the answers has to be mind-set. Going into situations with a plan, a mind-set of what the limits are going to be. Also whenever possible if you could (in advance) ask the person or persons to respect what it is you would like to keep a certain way. I really think it comes down to us, accepting or not accepting whatever is pushed at us. It's difficult I know. and I myself am just recently getting to finally be more under control in these situations. I don't want to disappoint people by being the one who has special needs but hey they'll get over it, and me I'll be slimmer and happier knowing I'm better in control of my own decisions. :) 3609 days ago
My BF is super fit, and can eat whatever crap he wants. Unfortunately that is what caught up with me - and I do NOT have his metabolism. He does body building, so he is constantly burning fuel. Lucky for me he does want to eat better, and this allowed me to make some changes.
I took matters into my own hands and made a weekly dinner schedule. It's consistent and reliable and HEALTHY. If he wants a different dinner, he can make his own (but I don't see him doing that). Then when he goes to veg out on junk, I make sure I have some goodies for me (so I don't feel deprived) like Skinny Cow ice cream treats, weight watchers snacks, and low fat chocolate milk (hey, I read it's practically good for you, so I'm going with that). ;)
Hope this helps, but I hope you find something that works for you. It's rather empowering to take control of the situation and make it work to your liking. I know I'm a lot happier since I did - and rarely have to have the dreaded "What should we have for dinner?" conversation, which was quickly followed by, "guess we'll have pizza.". Now that meals are predetermined, it makes grocery shopping so much easier, since I know what to anticipate each week.
Good luck, my friend! 3609 days ago
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