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Tuesday, January 25, 2011

So, for the last few weeks I have watched the number on the scale creep. And I feel like crap. Basically, I haven't been working out, and I've been eating like crap (or not eating at all). I know that I need to get back on track if I want to make my goals. But, I don't want it to control my life. I stopped using this site regularly because I was becoming obsessed. I would track EVERYTHING, refusing to eat or enjoy food if I couldn't track it. I would base my life around what I ate and how often I could work out. I could feel how it was controlling my life and affecting the people around me. My boyfriend even had mentioned how "obsessed" I was. So I stopped using it. And stopped being healthy. I can't seem to find a happy medium, and it scares me because I can't do this for the rest of my life, and I can't live the rest of my life as unhealthy as I used to be.

So, if anyone has any suggestions about how to handle this, I would really appreciate it. Thank you all so much!

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    i agree with the last two comments completely, and i want i to add, that being "obsessed" is way better then having no self confidence and feeling like crap all the time. and in my opinion "obsessed" is really just self informing, and keeping your self accountable.

    i hope you can find a good middle ground for you. and remember that you are doing this for you!
    3484 days ago
    I agree with Nix's first paragraph and have a couple of quick things to offer.

    You have to remember that the tracker does not have to be forever, but it's a very good tool for those of us who are new to this whole "taking care of ourselves" thing. I don't think you're obsessing. I refuse to eat things I don't want to track - a cup of ice cream, for example - because I have to face the consequences of what I eat, now. It helps me keep in check. There will come a day when you don't have to worry about the tracker and will make reasonable choices without it.

    So you need to make a choice. You can either "obsess" (I disagree heavily with this word) for awhile until you can keep yourself in check, or you can keep doing what you're doing! For people who have a negative relationship with food there IS NO MIDDLE! until that relationship has been repaired. It's all or nothin', baby. If you CAN'T track something, as in you're in a location that doesn't have a computer, then write down what you ate and track it later. Eventually you'll get a feel for how many calories are in something, and all fast food chains are required to post calorie count on their menu now anyway (and restaurants with over six locations, too!)

    And also - I agree with Nix's advice, too. Take a few bites of something you're craving. Don't deny yourself completely (unless you're denying the entire piece of Motherlode cake from Claim Jumper). Last night I had two cookies because I wanted them, and I felt better after I ate them and didn't want them any more.

    Truth is...taking care of yourself is WORK! :) Good luck!
    3484 days ago
    I hate it when people say "obsessed" like focusing on yourself (life, healthy eating, etc = self) is an awful thing. I have done the same thing recently. I was religious with posting, then slacked off and am gaining. I keep forgetting my most important lessons and it's very annoying. I dont really care what others around me thing of my journey... it's mine. Yes, I sometimes focus too much on certain things, but that's because I am in the process of still learning and teaching myself these good habits. I am informing myself of what I need to know and do, step by step. It takes time. I didn't get to be this fat overnight and I wont be skinny that way also.

    The people in your life need to understand that it takes time to change your life. You aren't "bad" for wanting to know what is in what you are eating. And, if you feel like you aren't enjoying things because you can't track them, take a guess at it (on the tracker) or just dont track it, but track everything else and let it be good enough. You dont have to be perfect. You may want to be and try to be... but no one is. Give yourself a break and remind people around you that you are doing this for your life... and if they are going to be involved in your life, then it's for them also. So many people have an issue when others care about themselves... it annoys me. Even you are annoyed with yourself right now and it's a mix between lost motivation and how people act that is getting you to that point. Grr!

    My best advice... do what you know is best for you... enjoy life, enjoy the things you want, have things in moderation (nothing tastes as good as the first bite anyway), and do what you can. No one is perfect. Just do what you CAN. We are all our worst critic. You aren't alone in this. :) XOXO
    3484 days ago
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