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Wednesday, March 09, 2011

Wow, what a day I had. I go to the doctor, my first time at this clinic, I was referred there by my doctor and told that they had faxed my MRI results in advance.
However, once I get there I am told I have to go to the office of my former neurologist and sign a release form and get my chart from them.
Keep in mind, it is pouring rain. So, I drive across town, sign for this and wait, 15 maybe 20 minutes.
Drive back, to be told they didnt have a copy of my MRI report and I have to wait for them to call medical records and get that.
Ok, I finally get called back and the Nurse Practitioner comes in, a male.
So, of course, the first thing out of his mouth, as expected, is about my weight.
I know the routine and I sit and listen and nod my head in agreement, but then things take a bizarre turn.....
He starts telling me he wants me to stop taking my blood pressure medicine and so on....he is going to wean me off of all this medicine I am on.
Uh, ok?

But, he wants me to start coming only to him and not my personal doctor anymore, what?
I am there to see him for back pain.
I say to him, I dont like the idea of not going back to my doctor, shes been my doctor awhile now, I prefer a woman doctor.
So, he asks me how often I get online, on the computer, I am thinking hes going to tell me how sitting at a desk can worsen back pain, as I know this is true.
But, he says, " You have to be careful a bout meeting people online, as some of them can be crazy, especially if you are meeting strange men" WHAT THE HELL.....?????
I say, yes I guess that is true, but I am not meeting any men online.
He says, "You are a beautiful woman, if you lose some weight, you can get a man".....WHATTTTTTT THE HELLLLLL!!!!!!!
I say, well I have a man, have been with him for nearly 15 years now.
He looked at me like wow, he couldnt believe I have a man.
I say to him, what does any of this have to do with treating my back pain? I thought later about several overweight men I saw in the waiting room, and I just wondered if he asked them about meeting women online, or about how if they lost some weight they could get a wife.
I just bet he didnt.

He says that I need to walk 2 miles a day everyday and he wants me to stop taking one of my medications and he wants to replace it with a narcotic and muscle relaxer.
I say no thank you to the muscle relaxer.
And, until I speak to my doctor I am not going to stop taking any of my other medications either.
So, he says to me "Dont you want pain pills for your back"......I sit there thinking, do I really want to come back here month after month?
Do I want to be lectured about and questioned about my personal/private business?
So, I say to him, no, I think I will just take my chart and go back to my own doctor.
And so, tomorrow I go back to her and cant wait to tell her about BIZARRO MAN.....
I decided along time ago, that I will never be spoken to in a condescending, hateful, rude tone by any doctor.
Especially a man.
I went to a doctor who was rude and just out and out mean some years back and one day I woke up and said, screw that.....
I dont need to be spoken to in that way by someone who is supposed to be helping me.
Who do these people think they are?
He thought because he was in a pain clinic, and because so many people come there for pain pills, that he could speak to me in that way....Maybe he delves into the personal private lives of women to see who he might hook up with????
Or, who will play his game for pain pills.
Well not me, I could really care less about that.
But I felt pretty down when I left that office, I just wanted to hurry and get out of there.
So many things ran thru my head later that I wish I had said.

I just hope none of you ever have to be talked to in such a way, but the weirdest thing about it was....he was one of those fake nice people. He spoke in a soft tone, in a caring tone, but his words were jabs....his stares and his attitude.
I am just glad I stood for my convictions and took my chart and left.
I could have said sure prescribe me the pain pills so my back wont hurt so much.
But I know they are only a temporary fix and he was right about me losing weight to help relieve my pain.
But its the way he said it.
Told me I would be in a nursing home in 5 years.
I should have shown him how a mad Ky woman could put him in a nursing home in 5 minutes!!!!!
I felt bad about myself for all of about 5 minutes, then once I got outside, I was just glad I wasnt crying or cussing....and I am glad I didnt know which car was his.
But I feel good now, knowing I didnt take his crap in exchange for a few pills.
I came home and rode my bike.
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    Bravo for you! That is the most bizarre doctor experience I have heard. What a jerk!
    3200 days ago
  • ELSCO55
    Wow, what a strange man.
    3200 days ago
    Wow, that was a close and dangerous call. He probably should be reported. I am glad you wrote the whole incident down right away. If he gets other complaints then you have the information to produce and protect yourself.

    On a side note that is why I have never been too worried about posting on the internet. You are just as apt to meet the weirdos in real life.
    3200 days ago
  • SOFT_VAL67
    i think he was a nurse practitioner, because my mom goes there to a doctor and she said he wasnt the same guy, i dont know why this guy came in, maybe the doctor was busy with other patients, i dont know....he was a dork!
    3201 days ago

    I have never heard/read anything like that did the right thing. I am stunned.

    3201 days ago
    WTF!?! He's probably taking advantage of patients who come there, I can't imagine a doctor coming out with that stuff about "getting" a man and hooking up on-line. What a weirdo, definitely report him to whomever you can!
    3201 days ago
  • SOFT_VAL67
    thanks for all the comments, i wish i had made it up, or dreamed it at least....i am going to find out who runs the clinic and i am going to put in a formal complaint, i dont expect anything to come of it, but just to give other women the chance to avoid this.
    3201 days ago
  • EDWINA172
    Thank goodness that you have a sensible head on your shoulders! OMG! That IS too weird to be true! You should definately report this person to your primary doctor and anyone else who will listen. I'm glad you stood up for yourself. Think of the others' who didn't or won't.
    3201 days ago
    OMG that is sereal the idiot should be in the one should be talked to in such a manner and to think if you would of stopped yours meds you could of had a heart attack.... such DR's shouldnt even be practicing so he needs to be reported to the POLICE...
    3201 days ago
  • OUREB33
    I would report him that is harrasement. So glad you didn't take it personally.

    3201 days ago
    Wow - that is bizarre. You sound like you handled yourself perfectly. Don't go back there!
    3201 days ago

    i am going to choose to believe that you made this all up.
    i know you didnt. what a weirdo!!
    good for you for not sitting there and taking it. and it was weird about meeting people online--please tell your regular dr. about that cos he's in a position of power and id hate to see him taking advantage of people.
    3201 days ago
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