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my action---an OVER-reaction? Feedback please????

Friday, April 29, 2011

The following blog is an exchange of emails I had first thing this morning....I log onto SP, and have mail, its from someone I dont recognize, but being that its SP, I think ok, it will be I respond.
Now, As soon I get the first reply I am leary, but I go on...and right away I feel uncomfortable, thinking something isnt right.
I think I was right. So, after this exchange, I report this to SP...This is word for word the emails, however, I did delete part of his name, just to keep from being accused of anything myself, but if anyone wants to know, in case they themselves want to be on the watch for this person, just private mail me and I will give you the name.
So ladies can be on the lookout, So here it is you decide how you would have reacted.

From: _GUY
Date: 4/29/2011 - 12:37 AM
Subject: need buddy/supprt
Message: Do you offer support more one on one for others? I am a newbie and need to have some accountability.

---------- SOFT_VAL67 wrote: ----------
I dont know how much support I can be, but I am willing to help any way.
I struggle myself each day, but, I try to stay positive and help others who are struggling.
---------- _GUY wrote: ----------
I would like someone that I can email when i have issues, or maybe daily with my weight or something. Would also like to share my "weight loss" pics i take in the mirror most mornings.
I am not sure what your comfort level is or what you are willing to do, just let me know. I can do all the same for you. The biggest thing is to overcome your fear of what your body looks like to others. So sharing pics with people you will not see personaly is a great step.

---------- SOFT_VAL67 wrote: ----------
you found me where???
on what group do you belong?
---------- _GUY wrote: ----------
not sure, i was on alot of them last night. I am only a member of the look better naked group.

To: _GUY
From: SOFT_VAL67
Date: 4/29/2011 - 9:55 AM
Subject: RE: support
Message: Ok, well I dont belong to that group, am I being punked? or are you for real? But good luck to you, I would never put naked pictures of myself on here or anyplace else online.
But whatever floats your boat.
this is my message to them-(SP)---(> (i received a message from this I GUY, and thought at first he was > just wanting a friend to help out with his weight and health issues...but, > i am not so sure...may be innocent but thought it warranted sending to be > checked out, thanks)-----------------------

Here is their reply back to me----
(He's on a SparkTeam called "Look Better Naked". I think that's what he was referring to. I think this message is okay, but if you see anything further from him that seems inappropriate, please report it and we'll check it out.)
So, I guess my question is, did I do the right thing? Were my feelings about this on the mark? After I responded that I wouldnt put pics of myself on here, he never responded back.
I do think this was someone being inappropriate. I wonder how far he would have gone had I kept it going? And, I wonder when SP would have felt it warranted looking into?????
People have to beware of online predators, not just young kids.
But everyone. A friend of mine recently came home to find someone had tried to break into her back door. She really believes it was because she and her daughter had both posted on Facebook that they were off on a shopping trip and that her hubby was working.
Someone not on my friends list recently posted a comment on my page, and while it was probably a friend of a friend, it wasnt anything bad, but I felt like my business was too out there, so I went in and reset my settings to private to friends only and also made most of my pics private.
But, back to the matter of this person. His page was private, if I clicked on it, it was private, yet he was able to contact me, I would like to see SP change settings so that if one doesnt make their page available, at least to those they email, then at least have the emails go thru a moderator of some sort.
I know that is asking alot. But I am not on here looking for a hook up nor am I on here wanting to look at some naked strangers.
I dont really know if SP looked into this guy, I rather hope they did, to see if he was sending these emails to others.
But, do you all think I did the right thing or over-reacted....and am I currently over-reacting???
I mean if the guys page was available to view, I would at least have some info to go on, so he can see me and my page....and yet right now I still dont have a clue who he is or where he saw me.
I feel kinda creeped out.
Like I said, if anyone especially ladies want to know his name, just message me and I will put it up so you can be aware.

Other than that, I had an ok day. The weather was good here finally, no rain and even a little sun.
I had a nice Subway dinner.
And watched some of the wedding.
Too bad the news outlets focused SOOOOOO much attention on might not have been that bad, had it not been for the tornados that devasted a good part of the South....I think the death toll is estimated at around 315 or so.
I think the "news" could have covered that more and given the wedding a sideline.
But thats just me.
Have a nice, CREEP free night.
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Member Comments About This Blog Post
    I have had a couple of experiences over the last three years. I think you did the right thing. Hopefully, it was just a misunderstanding and he will get it figured out and come into line with SP protocol. If not, he will be blocked soon.
    3459 days ago
    I think you did the right thing. That sounds really inappropriate to me. I would definitely be "creeped out". Thanks for the heads-up about this person.
    3461 days ago
  • DR1939
    In any situation where you feel uncomfortable it is always better to report it or to get some help. It is much better to be embarrassed than to be harmed mentally or physically.
    3463 days ago
    I think you did the right thing.

    That is the one thing I have always liked about this site, that the "conversation" was normal and was on topics that we all care about (health/weight loss). I always try to be very careful on what I post on here, being a male, as I don't ever want there to be any confusion. I always hope that I help motivate people the way you (and many on SP) do for me!

    Never be afraid to listen to your guts/instincts. They are normally right on the mark.
    3463 days ago
    I don't think you overreacted at all! I think his request was completely inappropriate. If he should happen to respond back to you, tell him that if that's what he's looking for, then he should go to the "Intimate" section on Lavalife. *lol*
    3464 days ago
  • MAMAG476
    I would feel the same way. They think they are untouchable in front of a key board. He knew how he was coming across. Shame on him for making you feel that way. He must not have any women in his life because I am pretty sure he wouldnt want someone talking to his mom or sister like that.
    3464 days ago

    Comment edited on: 4/29/2011 10:26:28 PM
    i'm with u , i think it was inappropriate......
    thanks for sharing!
    3464 days ago
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