Me Again!

Thursday, July 07, 2011

For the life of me I could not remember my user name and password. I finally figured out my user name and reset my password. Has anyone out there tried the diet pills phentermine and phendimetrazine? I started going to a weight loss facility to lose weight. I started taking these medications. What can I say, I didn't feel like I could do it on my own. I really really don't even know what to say about them. I mean, I don't feel they are bad per say but I don't feel they are good either. Why can't I do this on my own without the help of diet aids? Let me give you a little history. I didn't grow up heavy, although I thought I was. I married and gained weight. Tried to have children but didn't succeed until I was in my late 30's. I had a daughter. My husband had mental health issues and me well I turned to food. He passed away in 2009 so not only am I dealing with the grief of his loss but the whole change in my life. I am raising my daughter without her father. I moved in with my parents. Anyone deal with that after 20 + years of being on your own? Let me tell you it is hard. Then my niece moved in with her four kids. Talk about stress!!! So how do I keep my food, my excersize and my motivation going and on the right track??? We will have to see! I will post my success and my failures here and see what works best for me and maybe for you too. emoticon
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    So glad you are here with us. And so sorry to hear of your difficulties.

    It's so funny, when we have heart issues, we take heart medication without a single thought. When we have a broken arm, we get a cast to protect it while it heals, no question. Why is it then considered somehow wrong to take diet medication when we need help losing weight, or psych meds when we have emotional imbalances? I hear people apologizing for those two all the time, and I have no clue why. You do what works best for your health. And no need for apologies.

    You recognize you have a health problem. You are taking steps to fix that problem, good for you!

    Yes, it is stressful to move back in with parents, no question. Just spent the last seven years doing that, and it was a real learning experience! Definitely not easy! Adding all those extra children to the household has to be super hard, three families under one roof has to strain anyone's sanity, even on the best of days!

    Stress is going to be a big part of your life right now, with the death, and being a single parent, and trying to deal with the weight issues, and the housing, and having parents that need help (and often don't make it easy!) Any one of those would be enough. I am so proud of you for realizing this is a problem, and doing what you can to work your way through it all. Good for you!

    Stress causes cortisol release, a hormone that tells your body there is an emergency. To prepare for this emergency, your body becomes extremely efficient at processing food, so it can store the maximum amount as fat to keep you alive through the emergency (it thinks it must be war, or famine. . .) Which is why you can do everything right, and still gain weight sometimes!

    Don't be discouraged. As the stress slowly gets worked out of your life, all the wonderful new healthy habits you have learned, will suddenly turn the scale in the right direction. In the meantime, keep up with your healthy habits. Your inability to do this 'on your own' may have nothing to do with your willpower, and everything to do with the stress. Cortisol tells your body to pack on more weight, but giving you cravings for carbs. Many times our inability to succeed is simply the body's reaction to the stress we are under.

    The sleeplessness, the stress, the odd mealtimes, staying up late for private 'me' time, eating to deal with frustration--all of it works against us. BUT, here we learn healthy ways to thwart the stress syndrome, and become healthier, happier, and better in control of our lives.

    Do what you can to relax. Gentle, soothing music, a bubble bath (even a quickie), read a favorite book, do something relaxing like garden/quilt/sew/knit/crochet/write
    /draw/paint/listen to music, whatever you find soothing. Even if it's only for 5 minutes at a time. Put 'me' back into your life. You need ways to restore your spirit as well as your body. Pray, relax, do things you find fun. (I know that with all this trauma, nothing may seem fun right now, that's quite common, happened to me when I lost my first husband. Keep doing the things you used to find fun, or find new things, eventually 'fun' will come back into your life, it just takes time.)

    Keep us posted on your progress, and stop in at Caregiver Children's "Daily Check In" anytime you'd just like to vent. We're here for you. There is help, hope, and recovery. Hang in there, better days are comin'!
    3248 days ago
    Sounds like you have a full plate and full house! It might be good to take even a 1/2 hr each day to start to be by yourself. I am sure you need peace and quiet to just relax yourself and lower your blood pressure. Every Sunday during the school year I would take my daughter to Sunday school. I sat in the car for an hour in total peace and quiet and .... Read a magazine, did a crossword puzzle, closed my eyes and relaxed, listened to the radio. People would say isn't it boring to sit there for an hour. I say no way! It's my alone time. I don't get much of that being a mom of two with a husband.
    I call that my zen time. We all need it. You could use that time to reflect and make a plan for you to succeed.
    3248 days ago

    Comment edited on: 7/7/2011 10:49:53 PM
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