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Day 321 - N is for NEVER

Thursday, November 17, 2011



"Never say never." --old English proverb

'I'm done with cigarettes - I'm NEVER going to smoke again!' 'It took days for my ankle to recover - I'm NEVER going to try skating again!' 'I've finally reached my goal - I'm NEVER going to gain that weight back again!'

We vow and swear and guarantee. We promise ourselves, knowing exactly what we will and won't do. But in the all-or-nothing category, if you fail 'never,' what will the result be?

It could be an excuse for losing all control: 'I ate that huge piece of chocolate cake. I might just as well have another - I'm never going to lose weight, anyway.' 'I followed my exercise plan every day for two weeks, but I didn't feel like it yesterday, so I didn't do it. Why bother? I'm never going to get fit.'

Maybe it's another form of perfectionism: 'SHE's been a size 8 since high school - I bet she never overeats.' 'My neighbor jogs at least two miles every morning - I bet HE never has an off day.' Meaning, of course, 'Since I can't attain the perfection of her / him, I might as well give up before I start.'

When we make a firm commitment using the word 'never,' are we setting ourselves up for failure?

Perhaps a little reworking would help: 'No matter how many times I have to try to quit smoking, I'll never give up.' 'I know I can lose weight - I'll never quit trying.'

You may hear that words like 'never' are somehow wrong, not to be used, as if the word itself is negative. It comes down to the optimist / pessimist point of view, though, doesn't it? Positive self-talk as opposed to negative self-talk - 'I'll never quit' instead of 'I'll never succeed.'

Take such words and make them your own. You can create motivation and build morale from any word - if you want to.

"Resolved, never to lose one moment of time, to improve it in the most profitable way I possibly can.
"Resolved, never to do anything which I should despise or think meanly of in another.
"Resolved, never to do anything out of revenge.
"Resolved, never to do anything which I should be afraid to do if it were the last hour of my life." --Jonathan Edwards
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  • MS.ELENI
    One of my favorie sayings has been. Never say never.
    3053 days ago
  • LYNMEINDERS
    Love it...and so so true...we do it to ourselves all the time....well I know I can
    3053 days ago
  • SPARKYCARLEY
    Wow... this is so incredibly inspirational. Thanks so much.
    3053 days ago
  • ONEKIDSMOM
    And I'll never stop learning from your entries, Kasey! Thanks again!
    3053 days ago
  • MICHAEL_JOHN
    So true that we naturally use the word never in the worst possible sense. A fantastic point you've made! I can see some areas where I need to take a different approach to things.. Thanks for the inspiration to do just that!


    Mj
    3053 days ago
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