The Past Needs to Stay There
Friday, February 24, 2012
This morning I came into the school room to find my daughter writing a letter to the ex-adopted grandma. (My blog from yesterday explains my current place with all of this.) I asked her what she was doing and I was told "Daddy thinks I should write her a letter to tell her everything we've been doing." When I asked "Why?" her response was "Well, we haven't seen them in almost a year." EXACTLY is what I want to scream! What good will this serve? NONE! We have chosen to sever the relationship and have done a good job sheltering the kids about what happened so why does the hubby keep trying to open up the wound? Personally, there is no way this letter is getting mailed. I'll let dd write it, but I'm not sending it. I thought and prayed through it and honestly the reason I won't is because it would be hurtful to her when received AND God led us to this place of severing.
I guess I'm going to have to discuss this with the hubby again so he'll stop saying/doing this stuff. I know he misses Mike, but we have also stated we know this is best and we will never let the kids be with them alone again. There were too many negative words and criticisms from their end that can't be forgotten. I still feel some guilt over the emotional bullying that went on with dd and am working on moving beyond that.
Anyway....just needed to put it out there so that I'm not chewing on it all day long.
Ephesians 4:23 "You are being renewed in the spirit of your minds."
The devotion from "Breaking Free Day by Day" that I turned to this morning talked about strong relationships ending. "I can see the sincerity in their hearts. God has forgiven the sin, but the mental stronghold is still overwhelming. I know it takes perseverance to see this through, but many people give up before the old thoughts give out. Promise to give God your complete cooperation. Take time to renew your mind. You will be victorious, and Satan will be defeated."
Guessing I'm on the right path today.