Friday, March 16, 2012
So, if you've read my previous blog you know of our predicament regarding daycare. ...By the way, I really appreciate all the feedback I received from everyone. It was nice to hear advice coming from all sorts of different angles: mother, grandmother, daycare worker, etc.
The one thing I do like about this current daycare is the rules. Rules on # of diaper changes - infants get changed every 2 hours, no exceptions. They are always placed on their back to sleep and in the crib - no exceptions. The teacher must be certified. They must wash hands (even of the baby) after diaper changes. They keep track of how much they eat, when they eat, when they nap, and what they did that day (if anything). All toys get washed every day. You get my point - very structured.
The biggest concern with daycare is lack of attention. I've been visiting on my lunch breaks when I can and also arrive early at times. Every time I've gone the kids are just sitting in their bouncers. Sometimes there is only 1 teacher in the room - sometimes I am the only person in the room! I really don't believe they receive much interaction at all other than when they need their diaper changed or are getting a bottle. There was one day when I arrived to find Lilly in a Bumbo (little chair) by herself covered and soaked in her own spitup. I was so upset I cried on the way home - then had a little chat with the teacher the next day! Also there have been quite a few times now when they have come home with scratches and no one seems to know when or how they got them.
We didn't want to go with a nanny because I have issues with employing other people and having them in my house. I've had a housekeeper for about 3 years now and still am uncomfortable about her coming over. Plus I would hate to have an employee to manage. What if she is just as careless? How would I know what she is doing when I'm gone? What if she damages something? Then there's her sick days and vacation days... just seems like more stress and probably just as much money, if not more.
SO.... here's what we are going to do. My hubby has told his employer that he will no longer work full time. Since he is pretty integral to their processes he will continue to work part time as a consultant to help with special projects and an upcoming hospital audit. The kids will only need to be in daycare 1 day/week. I think I can live with that and hubby gets some adult social time. Plus he is active in a canoe club and grilling club. He will not get bored for sure.
Maybe when the kids are about a year or older they can go back and hubby can return to work (whatever he decides to do). I noticed that the older kids (walking age) seem to get along much better than infants. The itty bitty people need grown-ups for interaction where the toddlers are learning to play with each other and become independent. I'd probably also look at other centers - this one is great about the rules but seems to be pretty chaotic. Maybe that is the norm - I'm not sure.
Again, I appreciate all the input. Hubby goes PT after we get back from South Dakota mid-April. I'll keep you posted on how it goes!