Roadblocks: Detour up Ahead!

Monday, July 16, 2012

Losing weight for some people is as easy as just working out more and eating less. To other people such as myself it seems at times we can never catch a break. Just when we think we have this whole weight loss thing down, something new stands in our way that makes feel like giving up. These roadblocks can cause any progress we have made to stop completely and even send us running in the unhealthy direction. Recently my roadblocks have been my lack of motivation and my emotional binge eating. I have tried several things to overcome these roadblocks but nothing has really been working. So I have decided to take a new approach.

I am beginning to think the reason I have not been successful pushing pass these roadblocks is because I have been putting to much emphasis on the roadblock itself. I tell myself if I can just stop binging then I can start losing weight again and get back that motivation I use to have. For some people it maybe just that easy but for me its not. Binge eating is something I have done my whole life even as a child, so its not going to be something that I can just get over. It is just like when you encounter a roadblock in real life and you have two choices. You can either sit there at the blocked road and think if only I could get through I could be right back on my way. Or you could take the detour which might seem a little unfamiliar at first but gets you right back where you need to be. I am DONE with sitting at the roadblock wishing I would just go through. I am ready to take the detour.

What am I going to do to go around the roadblock? First I am changing my reason to reward myself. Instead of rewarding myself for how many pounds I lose, I am going to reward myself for how many months I track my food. For 1 month of tracking I am rewarding myself with a mani/pedi, 3 months a new shoes, 6 months ect. By doing this I am putting the focus on something I can 100% control. Only I can choose to track or not, I can't choose for the scale to say I lost five pounds. Another thing is to plan emotion based events (birthday parties, anniversary, girls night) around activity rather than food. For instance, my husband is leaving for a 2 month deployment tomorrow and rather than making a big meal for him or going out to eat, I decided a day at the beach would be a better option. Lastly, I am not going to sit at home so much which is something I do a lot while my husband is away. However this time I want to make a point to get out more and do things to keep myself busy. Instead of staying home being bored which turns into lengthy, emotional binge session because I miss my husband.

I am ready and prepared to take the detour around these roadblocks and excited to see what is waiting for me on the other side.
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  • AMBER281
    Great idea to focus on things you can control and not those you can't!!
    2875 days ago
    The idea of rewards for tracking or other controllable actions instead of weight is actually brilliant!!!
    I've probably come across the concept before but the way you put it makes SO much sense! To reward ourselves for something we 100% control makes so much more sense! Although I think I will still use the weight rewards..... I will also throw in rewards for streaks. I also can relate to the emotional eating. Lonely, boredom and stress are my huge triggers. Sounds like you have a great plan!
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    2875 days ago

    Comment edited on: 7/17/2012 7:43:33 AM
    Great insights! emoticon
    2875 days ago
    My husband is not in the military but he does work out of state a lot.. sometimes weeks .. sometimes over a month. I miss him so much when he is gone. I have been trying to use the time when he is away to focus more on myself and my goals. I am soooo thankful for the spark people community to be there to lift my spirits especially on the days that I feel so alone.

    You can do this== We can do this :)
    2875 days ago
  • UNICORN212
    When you get bored at home, crank up some music and dance! Or exercise while watching TV - walk in place if nothing else. Keep your mind and body occupied.

    P.S. You can also learn to belly dance to surprise him when he comes home....
    2875 days ago
  • HEALTHY156
    2875 days ago
  • MIRAGE727
    Rewarding is recommended for achieving short term and long term goals. I would also change to healthy foods for binging, i.e. fruits for an immediate fix. I would also search SparkPeople on the word binging and get more educated on it. If you have that time, focus on going for walks or exercising. You can eat more cleanly and that will burn better in your system. You are actively looking for solutions. That speaks volumes! Don't hesitate to ask for advice. We're all going through the same things. Stay strong and be well!
    2875 days ago
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