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Freedom feels good today

Saturday, August 11, 2012

Several events happened yesterday that caused me to feel that I had been set free, to appreciate the freedom that I enjoy. One was physical, and the other was the passing of a dear 93 year old neighbor/friend.
When I got word of my neighbor's passing, I knew that although her daughter was going to suffer terribly due to their codependent but very close loving relationship, the daughter, also my friend, was going to be set free from the very burdensome task of being the only caretaker for her mother. I don't think my friend will realize just how free she is right away, due to a heavy burden of feeling guilty if she enjoys her newly found freedom, but I hope and pray that eventually she will. She has a wonderful husband who is probably hoping for that to happen, as well.
It made me appreciate just how free I am in my own home, making choices on how to:
live my life,
what to do,
when to go and when to stay,
what to eat
what to buy and how much to spend
who my friends will be, and even
when to watch TV with full possession of the remote, all night long, if I want to.
I got up this morning about 6 am after being awake watching TV since aroud 2 am when I woke up from my original sleep. It's now not even 9 am and I've had breakfast, made some delicious oatmeal-craisin muffins, written a blog, and am getting ready to take a nap! I've never just gone back to bed for a nap, but I'm tired now, so I'm going to give it a try. I am so grateful for the freedoms that God has blessed me with, and also for being set free from the burdens of sin and guilt through my salvation in Jesus Christ. Some days freedom just feels so much better than other days, and today is one of those days!
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  • EATVEGAN
    When my ex-DH said he wanted a divorce, I was against it. I had been married so long, I just couldn't imagine myself single. It felt weird for about a year. Now I feel blessed to have the freedoms you mention. No one tells me what to spend, and even though my income is low, I have more that I decide about than I ever had. I thank the Lord that I have Him to depend on. He is all I need. emoticon
    Janet
    3032 days ago
  • IOWAGRAMMA
    Patty, I loved your blog today. So many truths! Sending up prayers for many blessings for you this week! Love, Jeannie
    3032 days ago
  • SUNRISE14
    I know what you mean to. I have always had the responsibility of caring for someone . When i was a kid i was left alone with my brother at 10 till i was 18 to care for him while my mom worked. I had the responsibility of her uniforms keeping the house ect ect . Then i got married and dh had a back surgery ect ect so in our 40 years i have basically been a care taker and we can't enjoy much . My mothern law lived right next door for 15 years and i cared for her mowed her grass done whatever needed done after she died i took care of her sister for 3 years daily . She was in private care after several strokes but i called daily made sure she got her meds paid her medical bills took her out often in a wheel chair usually weekly . Before that anything she needed for 8 years i mowed her grass ect. The last 15 years i have had a step daughter sick daily with migraines this year she moved into a senior building which helps but up till last month dh and i had the worry of getting her to multiple doctors when she could take a cab so i had to tell her you need to take a cab ! Now they think she had female cancer and i can't tell dh till we know for sure because he can't handle bad news ! It never quits ! I am thankful i have my home and i love my family dearly but sometimes i wonder what it would be like not to have to care for everybody . I really don't want to know just tired and stressed sometimes ! emoticon
    3032 days ago
  • no profile photo CD10429908
    YOU KNOW, I READ YOUR LIST OF FREEDOMS AND REALIZED THAT I ONLY HAVE ONE OF THEM. AND THAT IS CONTROL OF THE REMOTE BECAUSE DH FALLS ASLEEP ON THE COUCH AN HOUR AFTER HE GETS HOME AT NIGHT. EATS, AND FALLS ASLEEP. BUT! HE TELLS ME WHO I CAN TALK TO AND ABOUT WHAT, WHERE I CAN GO, AND I HAVE TO ASK PERMISSION BEFORE I SPEND MONEY. ABOUT A MONTH AGO, MY PASTOR INFORMED ME THAT IS A TYPE OF ABUSE AND TOLD ME TO STAND UP FOR MYSELF. SO I DID. I TOLD HIM I WOULD DO WHAT I WANTED TO WHEN I WANTED TO. HE CAN NO LONGER GO WITH ME TO THE BEAUTY SHOP (YEAH - YOU DID READ THAT RIGHT) OR BLOCK MY FRIENDS PHONE NUMBERS FROM OUR HOME PHONE. I WILL TAKE THE CAR THREE DAYS A WEEK AND GO WHERE I WANT AND BUY WHAT I WANT (WITHIN REASON). IF HE CAN'T DEAL WITH THAT I WILL INFORM HIS FAMILY JUST WHY HE IS TRYING TO IMPRISON ME IN OUR CONDO. THAT REALLY TERRIFIED HIM SO HE AGREED. I WILL ALSO NO LONGER CLEAN HIS ROOM OR HIS BATHROOM SINCE HE CHOOSES TO LIVE LIKE A PIG. OH DEAR! SORRY ABOUT THAT! TOO MUCH INFORMATION!
    ERIN
    3032 days ago
  • MARITIMER3
    I'm an only child, and was the primary caregiver for my parents until their deaths, so I understand some of what your friend will be going through.

    I lived alone for 17 years afer my first marriage ended, and I agree that it's nice to be able to do what you want, when you want... but now that I'm married again (for 10 years), I think this is the best of all... even if I have to compromise about the remote!

    Hugs, Gail
    3032 days ago
  • no profile photo CD12756725
    I love the freedom of being alone too but sometimes when I am trying to fall asleep I think of what might have been and get a little depressed. If it wasn't for the LORD I'm not sure I would be here; but I know who my Redeemer is and what my future holds so Praise the LORD! emoticon
    3032 days ago
  • no profile photo CD2332407
    Freedom is a God given blessing. I'm really happy for you. Have a wonderful free day!
    3032 days ago
  • JEANNE229
    I hope someday to feel completely free...but not yet.
    3032 days ago
  • MARY1313
    Love this blog! I also enjoy those same freedoms! I am glad you are having a blessed day. Freedom from the burden of sin is so AWESOME!!!

    Mary
    3032 days ago
  • CAMEOANDLACE
    I love those days of realizing what a wonderful gift life can be, Congratulations on your 70 pound weight loss. I'm sure you will help your dear friend to recognize the freedoms you do soon.
    3032 days ago
  • RAPUNZEL53
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