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Thursday, August 30, 2012

I seem to have developed a habit of being MIA. Seventeen days is a long time. Since them. my three girls just finished their two weeks of band camp. I was again the organizer of the bbq for the marching band. So glad that was a success. Kids are going back to school next week after Labor Day. We did a little clothes shopping for the girls. I think they are ready. Yesterday, I hit the big four five. Not a big deal. Girls had band practice for four hours and a freshman orientation. Hubby and my second son and I did chinese buffet. Oh boy, that was a feast I usually don't do. Earlier, I did some birthday retail and bought a new dress, a nice blouse and new earrings to match. Much later at night, we had filipino cake. Very sweet and not many people liked it. It had fresh coconuts for the filling. I myself couldn't finish it. Ok, now that I have filled you with what was going on for the past two weeks, I would like to share with you that bothers me. I don't expect much from anyone, as a matter of fact, I get more pleasure of giving. Hence, my giving my time volunteering to the marching band and other organizations. My first son, he works hard, pays his way through college and maintains a great budget. Majority of the family are summer babies, including my three girls, my husband and me. I have noticed that he will only come home just to have cake and whatever we have planned. All those birthdays, not one card, he just shows up to say happy birthday and then leaves an hour later to his girlfriend. Her birthday is coming soon on 9-11 so he feels that he has to put more effort because of the tragedy that we are reminded of every year. I feel like we are now not a priority to him. My oldest daughter who is 16 feels like he didn't give any thought to her birthday. He got her a poster to share with her other sister. I understand if it wasn't a present, but he thought it was fair. I don't understand where he got this set of mind he acquired. I know there are others here who may have a son or daughter who is 20yo that can shed some light to me. I am just disappointed about him right now. emoticon
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    Not without asking why he doesn't get a birthday card is like asking him why he doesn't pay the rent.
    3200 days ago
    My kids are younger, but they don't buy presents for each other.

    My brother did buy me a couple of birthday presents when he first moved out on his own and could afford them, but as we grew older, that doesn't happen anymore. I never buy him presents either. Nor my sister.

    Money was very tight for him and me when we first moved out of home.

    I know that I did buy Christmas presents for my neices and nephews, but I stopped when they finished high school. Why? Probably because they don't buy for my kids and they never say thank you.

    If anything, you're going to have to talk to him and maybe just say you have a few expectations of him. He should listen. I realize that he is spreading his wings and such, but he cannot forget that he has family and they have feelings too.

    Hope this helped.
    3200 days ago
    My little sister is coming out of that little by little. She is 22 now. I think they go through a.. life is heavy and I can't concentrate on "small things" like presents and what not with all the rest of the "drama and stress" in my life. I think it takes them time to figure out what's important. Plus he's a boy, he may just need a reminder to pick up a card and a little something for his dad or whoever. It will get better. :) emoticon
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