Changes! Week 4 BSG Challenge Sparks Team
Wednesday, September 26, 2012
This week we were told to blog about whatever we wanted to blog about. I have chosen to blog about the changes I have gone through since my husband passed away in February.
Likd most widow's I had to make a good deal of adjustments with my husbands death. For the first time in 22 years I was alone and that was a scary thought. I also lost half my income at the same time. Fortunately, we had taken out life insurance several years ago just enough to handle funeral expenses and pay off our debts. This way I could start with a clean slate.
I was also fortunate that a close friend of mine and Ray's offered to share her home with me. We have many things in common and yet enough differences that we are not in each others way all the time. I might have been a little doubtful about the arrangement at first. We both have seemed to make the adjustment that living together is good. Our pets (3 dogs and 2 cats) get along well together.
From the end of February to the first of June, I kept myself busy so that I didn't take time to grieve for my loss. I had been visited several times from Missionaries from the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints. Instead of telling no I wasn't interested. I kept putting them off before committing to sitting down with them. Then in June I came down with the flu and was sick for a week with the flu. The second week I was over the flu. Unfortunately I didn't feel like getting out of bed or doing much of anything. My roommate called my sister in Dallas. The two of them took me to the doctor. After looking me over and talking to me. She came out an asked how I was handling my grief. It finally dawned on me that was my problem. I hadn't taken the time to deal with my grief. I am now taking a mild anti depressant and hopefully soon will be off of them.
A couple of weeks later the Missonaries were back to see how I was doing. I set a time and date for us to meet. I am happy to say that I have become a member of the Mormon Church in August. I feel very blessed that the Missonaries didn't give up on me. When I was about to give up on myself.
Also another great change since June is that I have lost a total 20lbs. I am happy to be averaging 5lb loss a month. I know if I can do it so can others.