He's Finally Getting It!

Wednesday, October 24, 2012

Yesterday I complained about DH having a slight case of anal-cranal inversion regarding the arrival of our twins. Well, he's corrected the situation and is fully on board now. I am hugely relieved!

Last night we had a breakthrough over dinner. DH finally admitted that if the babies come at the beginning of my due range the upstairs will not be done but that it will be mostly done - except maybe the bathroom - if they come at the end of the range. Next he acknowledged a need for a plan B. He further admitted that I am not being rash or irrational - it is time to get the house ready for babies. I also told him that I've been bottling up the nesting instincts to give him time to finish the upstairs but now, with the clock winding down and the living stuffed literally floor to ceiling (see the third pic on my main page) the nesting instinct is in overdrive. And it's partially his fault for bottling it up. Ladies, he accepted that criticism! Whoa, I've married a good one!

As we all know, actions speak louder than words. DH has done the following things in the last 24 hours:

emoticon Organize the basement to make room both for baby stuff and things that will be supplanted by baby stuff.

emoticon Moved several large items that we won't need right away to the basement. The living room is A LOT less cluttered now than that crazy picture! I can even walk all the way through the house without bumping my belly on anything (not the case yesterday).

emoticon Installed both car seats in my car. Not only does this get them out of the house - a critical consideration - but it also means we're ready to transport babies home when the time comes. Eventually the car seats need to go into a yet-to-be-purchased minivan. But one thing at a time; at least Plan B is in place.

emoticon Finished prepping the hot tub, which I've been asking him to do for a month. Floating is a big relief for me and the babies like it. We keep the tub at a mere 1.3 degrees warmer than human body temperature, so a 20 minute soak is perfectly safe for me.

emoticon Discussed my plan for home babyification (I make my own words). He even had helpful, constructive ideas!

emoticon Researched pediatricians and sent me a link for a practice that looks perfect. It's close to home, highly rated on Angie's List, and the doctors have privileges at the hospital I'll be delivering at. The babies' pediatrician will check them out immediately after birth and again before releasing them, at a bare minimum. And their pediatrician will treat them in the NICU if that is necessary. The practice even offers welcome seminar for expectant parents!

This week has been going a bit better, in terms of how I'm feeling. My acid reflux and lower body pain are under control for the moment and I'm getting adjusted to waking up every hour or so to flip over. (This is a production these days: I have to flip my giant maternity pillow to my opposite side, mostly sit up, haul my belly over to the opposite side, and lay down again. Usually I pull all the covers over to my side in the process. I can't just pause on my back because it hurts and causes acid reflux. The whole thing is ridiculous and funny - and DH somehow manages to sleep through it all!) Both Monday and yesterday I went for a walk. Tonight we're going grocery shopping, which I currently find strenuous enough to count as exercise, lol. I've been alert enough to be productive at work and have enough energy to tend to small things when I get home, for the first time in a long time. I am sincerely hoping this lasts!
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    Twins! How exciting! Glad Daddy is now on board. It can make a big difference! I have ten children and 2 stepchildren, 34 grandkids, and 7 great grand kids with one more due in November. I got all of them one at a time. Congratulations to you for getting the Daily Double! emoticon
    3095 days ago
    Aha -- Jen, how terrific a development for both of you, nay for all Four of you! Methinks this man may be the gentle-Papa Bear sort whose natural way is to wait to be called upon by Mama Bear! When she 'pulls him in," he KNOWS heart-deep that he is Needed and Adored for his contribution, thus very much a central part of the family. My spouse told me that pregnancy evolved to be nine months not so much for gestation as for the father to get used to being part of what he'd only helped start!! I can imagine your husband loving the sense (even if it's an illusion!) that he is the Sun-Dad with his beloved 'Girls' revolving around his warmth like happy planets!

    Love it... even grocery chores will feel so much bettah tonight! BLESSINGS, you Dears!
    3095 days ago
    Oh good! Breathing a sigh of relief for you!
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    Fantastic that you have such a caring supportive hubby!
    3095 days ago
    Aw bless, he sounds like a keeper for sure : )
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