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Sunday, January 20, 2013

I know i'm not alone but I have to get it out. Every time I start doing well someone sabotages my efforts. Maybe not on purpose but it doesn;t make it easier to listen to my husband saying you've been doing great you can treat yourself. no I can't thats the thinking that got me here if I want to treat myself I should tell him to buy me a new lipstick {i'm addicted to lipstick} it's better than eating extra calories and it is hard to eat with lipstick on it gets on the food. Friday we went out to eat and I was doing just fine and he said why don't you have some dessert, he knows I have a sweet tooth. Well I didn't give in but I was annoyed with him even when I ask him to stop he forgets This coming Friday is his birthday weekend and he has alread invited the neighbors to go to the casino buffet it's crab leg night. I can't justify paying so much just to have a serving. I like the neighbors company I just wish we were meeting someplace else i'm out voted. I just have to grow a backbone and say I know you think I should treat myself but I always go too far and hope he listens to me.
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    So true about this. I don't fall into the temptation trap, I jump in eagerly. Just yesterday my son brought me candy. I gave it to GD4. Tonight I go out to Cracker Barrel with our church movie group. I know I'll want a fried item and then dessert. I'll put a reminder in my pocket to behave. Otherwise.....

    Print up a little card that says "My good work can be sabotaged by your kind thoughts, Please support me to get healthy.!" Set it out when you need. Repetition will get the idea across...

    1481 days ago
    I sure can relate. My husband brings home things for the kids, but I know the stuff he brings home is there and it's stuff that I like, ugh. Oh the challenges and temptations we have to deal with. It just about drives me crazy, I try to be good and strong and than 2 chocolate chip cookies later... Ugh! I guess if I just eat 2 that's not so bad. The trouble is he had brought home and gave me a Butterfingers candy bar. Okay, my Bad, oh Now back to the drawing board. Just have to try your best and get on with it when you derail, own up to it and Move on. Best wishes to you!
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    2939 days ago
    Going to the Casino for the Buffet will be fun - don't worry about the cost of the serving - eat what you want and enjoy yourself. Your husband is just being good to you (although it is a pain) because he wants you to have the best life has to offer. But, you know you are trying to be good. I am single after being married for many years (divorced now). I wish I had a hubby to say 'oh, have a little bite - it is Ok'...ya know? So remember, you are in control - people will be people and husbands will be husbands. Life is just too darn short to go through these ups and downs. When he makes suggestions laugh and say Ok - later or I am just too full! Have fun with him. Laughter will bring strength to that backbone...
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    That's tough. My husband it so proud of my efforts that he is doing the same thing. He always loses faster than me, but never let on. When we eat out, He always lets me choose.

    This Saturaday I am to attend a fun raising to help A Troubled Women's support group. It is a chocolatic fest. I have already made up my mind, I am taking sugar free hard candy.

    Hang tough. I am cheering you on. Could you cut back during the day for you can eat more with your group?

    2951 days ago
  • CAROLJ35
    emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon You make me realize how fortunate I am with my husband's support. He is more apt to ask "Should you be eating that?"
    We don't eat out often but I know the feeling that you hate to pay big buck for food you can't eat. Is there a chance you could order a regular meal and take half of it home and avoid the buffet???
    Sounds as though it may be buffet only. In that case, load up on salads, veggies and the lowest caloried foods.

    We all understand!!!

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    Comment edited on: 1/26/2013 6:46:26 PM
    I agree that he feels threatened by your weight loss and you can always tell him that he can get you some flowers or something that can not be eaten for a reward for you.
    2954 days ago
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    Your partner isn't ready to change and may feel threatened that you are changing.
    Just wait until he gets on board, and then you can work as a team.
    2956 days ago
    It IS really tough, and I struggle with the same thing... my boyfriend has the metabolism of a 13 year old boy on the football team. He can eat whatever he wants and never gains, therefore he never even considers health and calories when he wants to eat something. Just stay strong! It will be worth it in the end!
    2957 days ago
    I and just about every person on this site could have written what you just wrote at some point in our journeys.

    Check out the IOWL Team. I am a leader on it and we don't talk about carbs vs. proteins.

    We try to address the root causes of our own self sabotage using the tools that Renee Stephens suggests in her podcasts called "Inside Out Weight Loss."

    Good luck and don't quit!

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    2958 days ago
  • BEEJAY49
    Maybe there will be something there better for you to eat. We all get sabotaged from time to time by well meaning friends and spouses. Mine says, you're not eating enough. Okay, back off darling or I'm going to throw the rest of it in your lap. Hehe! We just need to have something to say to them when they do that to us. They don't do it on purpose, they just truly think they are being helpful. I just be honest with them, tell them one taste will not be enough and I'm not going to mess up what I'm working so hard for.
    Awesome idea on the lipstick reward! :) HUGS!
    2959 days ago
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    There's an important point in what you're saying: we cannot change the world, only ourselves. I think of the sabotaging situations as opportunities for me to learn how to cope with temptation (which is always everywhere). I am mentally prepared for my husband wanting to get a pizza (he can absolutely go ahead with that while I join him with a salad). Does it still pull me when he asks? Sure! But each time I say "no" I get stronger in my program. So, those saboteurs end up being part of the training regimen after all!

    2959 days ago
    I know you mean i sometimes feel that way to. we just got to remind yourself what are doing it for.
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    2959 days ago
    There is a balance of sabatage and actually treating yourself. Make sure you're living in Healthy Living and not dieting. Living in Healthy Living allows you to have special treats and continue to lose weight. It can be done. Keep moving forward!
    2959 days ago
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