Tuesday, April 23, 2013

blog #30 - What is really 'required' to be happy?

This photo was shared on my facebook today and it really just hit me. 2 weeks ago I had this same revelation. What did I really need to be happy?

I don't like my job and I was letting it take over my life. I would go home and be in such a terrible mood knowing that I have to come back the next day. But I was standing in the kitchen one day and I realized. I provide for my family. Many people have jobs they hate and are still happy. Why was I not one of them? Why couldn't I be happy and not like parts of my life?

I took a mental check list.

I love my husband (and he loves me) - Check.
I love my son ( and he loves me) - Check.
I have my health ( well mostly ) - Check.
I make enough money to feed my family healthy food - Check
I have a friend who loves me unconditionally - Check.
I am at my goal weight - No, but that isn't an unsurpassable hurdle.

Now really when I look at that. What good reason do I even have to be unhappy?

I can't let little bumps in my path totally destroy my way like I have in the past. My closest friend is away right now but it isn't forever. Things don't have to be my vision of perfect to make my life happy.

About a month ago I was speaking to a friend about how I feel I have no stability in my life. How I feel so ungrounded. He laughed at me. At first I was offended then he said " You have had your hubby for over 14 years. He is your ground, your stability" Wow. Did I really just have to hear that from someone outside my marriage? With my eyes open, things have been so much better emotionally for me.

I have lost 10lbs and I have been able to let the stress and frustration of my job roll off me. I know at the end of the day I'm going home to the two people who love me the most in this world. They deserve a healthy, and happy mom/wife.

So I guess my "Change something" was more internal but it has really shown me a new path.
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  • RR1_RR1
    Maybe if you hate your job, you could work on something on the side to change it. Maybe take some classes and learn a new skill or something. But its true, stable jobs are hard to come by these days so you are definitely lucky with that! However you never know what may happen in the future w the way companies are today so always good to make a back up plan on the side.
    2826 days ago
  • no profile photo CD13281187
    That's GREAT!!

    I believe that everyone has frustrations at work and it is possible, no matter how much you love your work, or believe you love it, to let it effect your daily life. But years ago I heard some things that I try to remember when I get frustrated by my job.'s a little...... out there.... but here it comes.....

    I was told that we are here to love one another and that our job is just another place where we can fulfill that role so that no matter what we are doing - we are to do it with that focus in mind. We are to be a light in the world.

    I was also told that we are here to learn and overcome obstacles and that quite often, that obstacle is our own point of view. Often, we are just where we belong.

    I just wanted to share that with you.

    Wishing you all the best.
    2921 days ago
  • 3016DEBRA
    That puts things in perspective! Thanks for opening my eyes a little bit too! emoticon
    2922 days ago
    That is awesome. I'm so glad you found your happy. And I'm glad to hear you are having success with your weight loss.

    Keep up the great work. I know you will reach your goal weight.
    2922 days ago
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