Happiness

blog #30 - What is really 'required' to be happy?



This photo was shared on my facebook today and it really just hit me. 2 weeks ago I had this same revelation. What did I really need to be happy?

I don't like my job and I was letting it take over my life. I would go home and be in such a terrible mood knowing that I have to come back the next day. But I was standing in the kitchen one day and I realized. I provide for my family. Many people have jobs they hate and are still happy. Why was I not one of them? Why couldn't I be happy and not like parts of my life?

I took a mental check list.

I love my husband (and he loves me) - Check.
I love my son ( and he loves me) - Check.
I have my health ( well mostly ) - Check.
I make enough money to feed my family healthy food - Check
I have a friend who loves me unconditionally - Check.
I am at my goal weight - No, but that isn't an unsurpassable hurdle.

Now really when I look at that. What good reason do I even have to be unhappy?

I can't let little bumps in my path totally destroy my way like I have in the past. My closest friend is away right now but it isn't forever. Things don't have to be my vision of perfect to make my life happy.

About a month ago I was speaking to a friend about how I feel I have no stability in my life. How I feel so ungrounded. He laughed at me. At first I was offended then he said " You have had your hubby for over 14 years. He is your ground, your stability" Wow. Did I really just have to hear that from someone outside my marriage? With my eyes open, things have been so much better emotionally for me.

I have lost 10lbs and I have been able to let the stress and frustration of my job roll off me. I know at the end of the day I'm going home to the two people who love me the most in this world. They deserve a healthy, and happy mom/wife.

So I guess my "Change something" was more internal but it has really shown me a new path.