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Thursday, November 14, 2013

I am really not sure what to do. I need your help.

I have been on a weight loss journey for quite a while. I started with weight watchers a year after my son was born so 13 years ago. I started at a weight of around 220 my ending weight when I left was 183. I maintained my weight for a long time. When I started the spa I weighed in at 192. Still not bad after 13 years. As you all know my main motivation for the spa was to recreate a healthy mind. I am a very strong believer it is all connected you can not have a healthy body without a healthy mind.
The past six months being at the spa I have overcome so much. The power of positive thinking and speaking is truly amazing. I am so much better now "The fog has lifted".

Now back to my weight loss. I believed once I cleared my mind I would begin to lose weight again. That didn't happen. I went for a physical and mentioned my concerns. I was told since I am in menopause not to expect any weight lose until my body says it ready again.
She told me to keep up what im doing to maintain and focus on not gaining.
I am blogging this because the scale was up a pound. I was on track all week. That number pushed me over the edge I NEED TO FIND GREY AGAIN!!!!

I have failed to listen to my doctors advice and Ive joined challenges and feel like I should be able to lose like all of my Spark friends.
Today it has made me feel like a failure. I hate this feeling.

What should I do?

How do I find my grey?

Love you all Julie

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  • GENRE009
    I live in the grey. I found you thru one of your bloggers, they are also one of mine. And now I see more of the people that blog to me. If you have gone to weight watcher, you have learned their behaviors to change the bad behavior you have toward foods, right. you have changed up all the bad foods for healthy, ARE HOURNALLING ABOUT 12OO CALORIES A DAY, OR GO INTO THE SPARK DIEBETIC FOODS PART. I THINK THERE IT WILL HELP YOU TO SUCEED. diabetic EATING IS CLEAN, 3 BIG MEALS A,D 3 SMALL. IWHEN I HAD MENOPAUSE I GOT OVER IT BY EATING MORE FISH, LESS BEEF. BUT THE NUTRITIONIST SAID, WHAT REALLY DID IT WAS EATING TOFU IN MYSOUP USUALLY ON THE FIRST DAY OF THE SYMPTOMS, OR JUST BEFORE. if YOU STAY ON 1200 CALORIES, YOU WILL LOSS BETWEEN 1/2 -2 POUNDS A WEEK DEPENDING IF YOU EXERCISE. I KNOW ALOT DEPENDS ON ME NOT DOING ANY PROCEEDED FOODS CAUSE I SWQELL FROM SALT. wATER RETENSION.
    2676 days ago
    You can do this. It is exhausting to do all that you do. It takes a lot of self focus and if you have to fit it in to a busy life then it takes a lot of determination to make sure you get your time! You have to really demand your healthly life! I know that you are trying.
    I can tell you honestly that I am also surprised you havent made more progress...but I am not you so I don't know what is going on. I really think you are doing a great job starting from the head and heart this time! I know you are in a better place than when you started. So that is the best scale to see progress on...your outlook and quaility of life are both great!
    Look at what you eat, or think about holds you back, if you share this with us we can help. If you need a coach to push you or a hug...we are here!
    I dont know very much about your routine or how you use SP. So I don't know what I don't know....which means I don't know how to help you if I don't know what you are struggling with....I was blown away months ago when you told us you hadn't been eating breakfast since you were in middle school?! That was something that really surprised me because we don't skip meals on SP. I know you have made that important change. But remember SP is a program, and really we are reporting data to see what needs to improve and what works.
    I just assumed that we are all following the SP program in full. Doing the nutrition trackers and eating only the limits, drinking the water, getting the 7+ hours of sleep, and doing the daily fitness. This is how you get to see your data and learn from it.
    I was doing all this as recommended consistantly and it helped me see what worked- for me, it was in the smallest weight loss... but from there you can see how little changes can affect results for the better. Then you have to take it up a notch at each plateau or setback because that is information you are tracking to work with. I know you want to lose, and I am positive you will do it! Be patient! Be strong! Be you!
    2706 days ago

    Comment edited on: 11/17/2013 12:22:56 AM
  • no profile photo CD13838073
    Brad and Ginger are RIGHT! The doctor has very little insight into how compulsive eaters live and lose weight!
    We are on a life long journey, My Love! This is a DAILY commitment with a lot of grey thrown in...because this is LIFE! Unpredictable, uncertain and uncooperative when it comes to our WILL...lolol. Just DO WHAT YOU KNOW TO DO...and the pieces will fall into place...not necessarily according to our timetables...but they will fall EXACTLY when they should...I promise!
    I'm right there with you My Darling Julie!
    Our job is not to lose weight...our job is to treat ourselves WELL and take care of our hearts. The body melts away (at its own pace) when we do that!

    lovelovelove you SO!
    2707 days ago
  • EMILY0724
    I disagree with your doctor. I'm in menopause. I'm not gaining weight. I'm still losing, but slowly. That may be because I'm near my goal weight and/or menopause. DON'T just give up on losing weight! Keep working the program. You may need to change your fitness routine or tweak your nutrition goals. Just don't get discouraged and quit!
    2708 days ago
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    I have to tell you, sweetie, some doctors don't have any brains. I am in total disagreement with your doctor telling you not to expect weight loss due to menopause. I am in menopause AND hypothyroid and the last time I went to my endocrinologist she told me, "thyroid patients need to exercise 90 minutes per day to maintain their weight". I just decided not to listen to her and I cut down my carbs and that has made a big difference.
    Please don't feel like a failure because you're not, but maybe make some subtle changes in your diet and then hope for the best. I'm sorry you're discouraged!!

    Love, Ginger

    2708 days ago
  • BRADMILL2922
    Sometimes that scale is such a pain in the butt. Hang in there. If you are doing what you are supposed to be doing, it will start cooperating! You are living a healthier lifestyle which is the main goal anyways!
    2708 days ago
    I know the numbers are not helping what you are feeling, but if you are doing what you need to be doing just keep doing it. Don't give up now. The scale is an evil thing, don't let it control you.
    2708 days ago
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