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Preparing for the New Year

Thursday, December 12, 2013

I am saying "PREPARING FOR THE NEW YEAR" in hopes that I actually do that. I can't believe that we are in December already and that the New Year is just around the corner.

Am I where I wanted to be at this point? Nope! Could I have done more to be in a better place? Yep. What was the problem? One of the things that I can point to as a problem is that I have been experiencing debilitating fatigue! I hurt all over and it is hard to get out of bed (not that I sleep well) and just to move throughout the day.

Now I know that there are some out there that will read that and begin the onslaught of telling me what I need to do. DON'T DO IT! RESIST!

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I am going to warn you that I am about do rant here and as many of you know, I don't do that often but I feel I have to get this out.

Since when is it open season on people? Where did people get the idea that it is alright to attack a person for the plan that they decide to follow? Really? What happened to the support and encouragement? There are ways to express concern that isn't ripping people to shreds!

I have seen posts where people have ripped others a new one over the plan that they choose. If a person decides that weight loss surgery is for them, more power to them! It isn't for me but they probably did their homework/research and discussed it with their doctor and their family. Hello...they don't need your approval and most of all, they don't need to be attacked over it. This also goes for people who for whatever reason decided to use some type of product to lose the weight. Again, they probably have done their homework/research etc. etc.

If you can't be supportive, then at least think about how the person is going to feel when you make that comment. We are all here to lose the weight and get healthy. Let's think back to when we began our journey's and how difficult it is and how easily we could be hurt by things that people say to us or about us.

Don't forget that we are not experts because if we were, we wouldn't be here! SP is supposed to be a place of support and encouragement. If we wanted to be attacked or have a new one ripped, we don't have to come here for that. We come here for help! Attacking people isn't the way to help!

Okay....ending the rant now. That is truly my own opinion. I have been on the receiving end of those attacks before and I have seen others get attacked so I know what it is like.

So back to 2014....I am making my chart to track my weight loss and measurements for the next 3 months. My 1st goal is 5% (I am not waiting for January to start) I will have a number to work for when I have my weigh in next week. I have a big goal that I am working on but I am not going to share that right now. I have found in the past that when I share my big weightloss goal (that has a big reward attached) I go into a panic mode and I don't do well so I am keeping it under wraps.

I am going to continue to work with my accountability partner as I feel that this helps keep me pushing. I know that I have been slacking in that area but will be outlining my plan and working out just how I need help. She is good at whipping me back in line! lol

Okay that is all for now!

Much love

Susan
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  • PURPLEPEONY
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    2450 days ago
  • SNOWYOGA
    Thank you and wishing you a Happy New Years!
    2453 days ago
  • JUMPINJULIE
    Agree you can do it.
    2470 days ago
  • CLPURNELL
    Hope you have an incredible 2014!
    2473 days ago
  • CHARLIEGIRL59
    Shame on those people for being mean, surely they know how hurtful words can be. On a brighter note, I am glad to see you back! Here's to a successful 2014 for us each and everyone! emoticon emoticon
    2474 days ago
  • SBFT84
    Susan, I loved your blog and I know & support all that you said. Thanks for standing up for us.

    Love, Sherry B

    2477 days ago
  • PHEBESS
    I love your rant!

    And yes, I don't understand the whole concept of "calling out" people - especially when you don't really know them in real life, only through the keyboard.

    So whatever your plan, go for it! Stick with it! You can do it!

    And maybe talk to your doctor about the fatigue if it continues to be debilitating? Just a thought. You may have already done so, but, well, I had what I thought were periodic bouts of stomach upset - and after 18 months, finally saw a dr and turned out I needed gall bladder surgery ASAP. All I'm saying is that we sometimes figure we can deal with minor medical problems and then they turn out to be much more major than we thought. So, if it continues, PLEASE see your dr.

    Happy New Year!!!
    2477 days ago
  • BELDONDOG1
    Fingers, eyes and legs (NOT!) are crossed for your success!! Keep us all posted! Noel!
    2477 days ago
  • JSTETSER
    Go girl, go!
    2477 days ago
  • EJOY-EVELYN
    Sounds like we need a little extra holiday/Christmas spirit this time of year when the pressures sometimes get a little stressful. I suspect a lot of people may even offer advice with good intentions not realizing how unkindly it will be received. May all our hearts be made right so that we can try to be encouraging SparkPeople where we forgive ourselves and each other quickly. My best to you as you make progress toward reaching your goals. cheers! Hug, hug -- Evelyn
    2477 days ago
  • LIVELYGIRL2
    I havenb't seen any of that... but sorry it happened.

    I do think there is a polite, thoughtful way of saying : I'm wondering or concerned if such and such is healthy or a fad diet, or perhaps it is good to compare several options( I'm referring to dangerous things)
    2478 days ago
  • no profile photo CD14034154
    Susan,

    You go girl!!! Good for you, for standing up and speaking up, not only for yourself, but others! You're exactly right, as I came to SP for support and help and not degradation! Why would anyone want to put somebody through that, when sometimes they are already fragile. It makes no sense to tear down, when we should be supporting and lifting up.

    emoticon not waiting until the new year to get started, and yes, I kept my goal under wraps, only because I didn't know what God was going to do with me! When I stepped on the scales yesterday, He, God, had a SURPRISE for me, but I freaked out, until my trainer explained everything to me. PHEW!!! I'm still on the right track, by His Grace.

    I'm looking forward to seeing your progress, whether it's up or down, as that's just part of the journey!

    Be blessed,

    - Nancy Jean -
    GA
    2478 days ago
  • WALLAHALLA
    I have been on the receiving end of the attacks all too often, and usually for my sense of humor, so I totally relate to your rant. A whole lot of people need to watch Bambi and take her mama's advice..."If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all." (That's my mini rant) emoticon

    I'm not happy with my lack of progress this year, and am currently mulling over new goals, and a serious reality check on my priorities. Good luck with yours!
    2478 days ago
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    Great job on setting small goals. I too get overwhelmed when I look at the big picture on how much I need to lose. And keeping it small really helps me too! As far as people ripping on each other....I can't even imagine. I would be hitting delete before I ever finished what they had to say! And that's so awesome that you aren't waiting till the New Year! Hugs...Robin
    2478 days ago
  • LIZSPRINGSTEEN
    YOU CAN DO THIS!!! Keep pushing!
    2479 days ago
  • no profile photo CD14277958
    I'm so lucky I haven't run into that on SP. it would make me angry. When someone's doing a plan I think is unwise, I keep my mouth shut. I don't assume I know their situation better than they do.
    2479 days ago
  • no profile photo CD14126107
    I totally agree with you, Susan. SP is a place where we need to show support for one another. What to say, I guess some forget that we are all strangers to one another except we're connected by a common goal: to lose weight, and we're all using this SP service as a place for support.

    Hopefully you'll steer clear of those naysayers and just do what's best for you.

    Have a good weekend!

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    100+ Pounds Team
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  • CHANGINGEMMY
    Great goals! Having an accountability partner is great!
    I too am evaluating some changes and making some (no sense waiting)!!

    Keep up your hard work!!
    2479 days ago
  • KIPPER15
    Slow and steady wins the race. We are all rowing for the same shore. emoticon emoticon
    2479 days ago
  • COCK-ROBIN
    You're doing great, and I'm proud of you Keep it up.
    2479 days ago
  • STEPH-KNEE
    I love what you said here! We are all here for support and encouragement. Just because our plans or thoughts aren't the same as someone elses, I think we can still show support and encouragement to someone without necessarily agreeing with the way they are approaching things. And if for some reason we are "so against" whatever someone is doing, then it is better for us to walk away from the blog, page, or message board instead of voicing our thoughts and bringing someone down. Thanks for reminding us that Spark should be a place for compassion and encouragement and not negativity!!

    I look forward to seeing what plan you have in store, and I support keeping your big goal and reward underwraps. I can not even lie to you, that has happened to me before... I set my onederland goal and bought my ipod touch and told everyone about this goal... and I ended up giving myself the ipod long before I reached the goal. I also think the added pressure of everyone knowing really messed with me a lot. So I am totally in support of keeping it a secret. When the time is right (maybe even after the goal is met) you will share it with us and we will cheer you on and support you! emoticon
    2479 days ago
  • SUNRISE141
    Good blog ! We are praying for you on the team GOD ANSWERS PRAYER ! Thank you for being on the team . I am here for you and want to see you reach your goals my friend ! With the Lord's help we can do this !
    2479 days ago
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    An accountability partner is a great motivator. Good luck with your 2014 goals. emoticon emoticon
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