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letting go, so good for the soul

Thursday, February 20, 2014

Got all dressed up to have lunch, just because I felt like doing something for me.
Even though we only had salad and water at the local pizza place, it felt good to put on a nice dressy shirt and style my hair.

Got alot of positive feedback and even some good stories from others on a post I made on a message board, concerning friends who cause you more grief than happiness.
I have blogged about this friend who is such a debbie downer. and not only always messaging me complaining about being in pain, or being sad, or wishing they could just end it, but, bumming.
Bumming money, a ride, a babysitter, even eardrops.
I finally had all I could take.
And I had planned to just ease my way out of the friendship, but I just couldnt keep making excuses.
So last night they message me, with yet another down attitude, they dont have the will to go on, life is too hard, they dont have the money for a doctor, etc.
I decided, the only way to get this to stop, is to put a stop to it.
I messaged back and told them, I am not a doctor or a counselor, I dont know what it is they expect me to do.
I told them there are clinics and doctors that can help them find out what is making them feel this way.
I told them I cannot and will not give money or anything else.
I told them I am beginning to feel uncomfortable with some of their requests and that I have been brought down by their bad attitude and that they need to find out a way to help themselves.
I wasnt confrontational, I just told them to have some respect for me, that I have my own issues to deal with and that I dont choose to find it in the bottle of a bottle of alcohol or pills,
I suspect, (thru information i was told by a few other people) that a big part of this persons problem is drugs and that because they live in a nice home, come from a nice hard working wealthy family, and went to college, that others wouldnt believe it of them.
But when you know about addiction, you know it doesnt discriminate based on someones upbringing, religion or wealth.
Maybe this person seen me as someone they could use, because maybe they thought that I didnt know their background, or that their parent had pretty much set them up in their own business and they had nearly lost the whole business, or that others in the neighborhood have warned that this person is a fraud.
Maybe they didnt realize, that while I am not a drug addict, I know all about addiction and consider myself a food addict and know that every day is a struggle to deal with what it is you crave and desire things that are bad for me.
I think a part of me knew all along that the things I had heard were true, but I kept hoping maybe this person really wasnt a fraud, and really was just down on their luck.
I am so glad I got wise before it got too far out of hand.

So, I havent heard back from them and honestly, its been a nice quiet day without my phone going off, dreading to open the text, knowing its going to be some request I cannot fulfill.
So, I went to lunch with another friend, and had a nice salad and some water and wanted to go walking, but the wind is terrible.
Its so swift that my front door nearly blew out of my hand when I opened it.
Looking forward to getting things in my life on track again.
Warmer days, without wind, are right around the corner, and while I need to get busy getting a little more organized, I feel that taking this constant dread of what this person will ask of me out of the equation, I can move on with my own life.
Getting some debts paid down.
Moving closer to having 2 less monthly payments feels pretty good.
Decluttering my house, my debts, my hair, lol, I have to get a cut soon, its getting wild.
But mostly just eliminating people, toxic, bad for me, people from my life is the number one goal.
I think I took a step in the right direction.
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    Great move to shut that door. You don't need others negativity on your shoulders!
    2439 days ago
    You need to take care of yourself!
    2439 days ago
    You need to stay away from people like that. They just bring you down. My sister is all about how everyone gets treated better than she does, and how she does everything for everyone etc. She stopped speaking to me when my mother died and I wouldn't give her and my brother everything of my mother's that my mother had given me. This girl is a partner in a law firm and earns over 500k a year. What I had wasn't worth much at all. It was just sentimental. Until I emailed her about the mare, I hadn't heard from her since the day my mother died.
    2440 days ago
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