what is love
Sunday, April 06, 2014
Does anyone remember that sketch from SNL, with Chris Kattan and Will Ferrell, where they are in a bar dancing, trying to pick up women???
And that song, "what is love, dont hurt me dont hurt me, no more"
When someone judges every word you say, when someone puts you down and says you are stupid and cant even figure out how to use a remote control. When someone tells you you should be happy you dont have any grandchildren, because you are so crazy, you would probably stab them with a knife. When they count every penny you spend and tell you that they dont trust you, that is NOT love.
When you are at your lowest and weakest and hurting and feel like your very heart is going to pound out of your body, and they tell you they love you, that IS NOT love.
No one will hurt you, or abuse you emotionally or psychologically, if they love you.
They will not scream at you, cuss you, and throw reminders of past wrongs in your face if they love you.
And if you do this to yourself, then you are also only hurting yourself.
Forgiveness has to be first and foremost before moving on.
But when someone says, I am sorry, it wont happen again and lets work it out and move on FROM HERE.
And a month or a year later, they start saying the same things, hurtful, mean, cruel words to wound your heart, and to belittle you, and to take away from your spirit as a human being, and to make you feel less than human, less than zero.
That is not love.
Love yourself above anyone, even your own parents, even your own children.
Put yourself first, it isnt SELF ISH, its SELF PRESERVATION.
When someone bitches you out and screams at you and calls you a liar, and a thief and says you are taking away from them, they do not love you.
When they go and spent 1200 dollars on an item, and say they did it for you, even when you tell them not to and say you dont want it or need it, and then they throw it in your face every day, that is not love.
They did not buy you that item to see happiness in your eyes, or a smile on your face, or love in your heart, to make you feel good about yourself, they did it, in order to have more fodder to add to their fire.
To say, SEE WHAT YOU HAVE TAKEN FROM ME!!!
Take nothing from no one.
Do not ask for anything, do not expect anything, do not wish for anything.
Just do for yourself.
Just preserve your own emotions, and heart and mind and psyche.
Do not allow yourself to be put thru hell here on this earth by someone who proclaims to love you and then treats you as if you were a dog they could tie to a tree and feed when they wish to.
Kick you when you are down and already hurting and already wishing you were dead!!!!
One day, you may know love again, but you do not know self love, you have to love yourself before anyone else can or will.
You must find light inside you.
Do not depend on others for love, or for kindness or for friendship or for a roof over your head or food in your belly or anything.
There comes a time when you have to decide if its worth someone wounding you daily with the sharpness of a serpents tounge just to eat.
I think when you get to that point, you really have become a dog tied to a tree.
Begging for a few scraps and a little love.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.