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Saturday, June 07, 2014

It has been an emotional day for me, it started last night at dinner, I heard some ladies at the table behind talking, they were poking fun of a very large women who walked by our rude people can be, how dare they judge that women.... they did not know and probably never would know her...
It made me flash back to my days when I was over 300 pounds, I heard people snicker at me too....It dredged up all the old pain and hurt that only someone who has been there would know....
I found it hard to sleep and relax....I was wondering what I could have done for that women, she acted like she did not hear them but I bet she did....
I talked with Gary about this morning, he said to let it go, that there was nothing I could do...I could not say, hey those rude people are talking bad about you.....but I think the real point is I related back, some how I need to let the hurt and anger go from myself ....I need to think only in the present, I can't change what happen to me.....I can only deal with today....sounds so easy and simple....but it really is not....

thanks for listening ....sometimes just getting it out helps....

Have a healthy week end.........

Let's stop judging people, can we all learn to just love each other, no matter our size, our color, our beliefs.....God so Loves us all.... emoticon ...
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  • SHARON10002
    Unfortunately we all still have those emotional scars of words that hurt, not being loved, abuse, etc. It is amazing how deeply some of these are buried within us, but just how little it takes to make them right back up to the surface.

    You have come a long way and overcome great obstacles to get where you are today.

    Sometimes we just have to remember that they are harboring some thoughts or feelings that make them act this way. Just as there's reasons we feel the way we do, there are reasons that they are not aware of that make them act out and (mis)behave the way they do.

    It was very compassionate and empathetic for you to think how the targeted woman felt. Take some comfort in knowing that God was smiling at you!
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    1988 days ago
    I'm saying a prayer for you and for all those women involved. Even silent prayers help to make the world a better place.
    1988 days ago
    emoticon I know from the years I was bullied in school, how much words can hurt. When I hear of anyone being bullied, child or adult, I feel so much worse for them than I ever felt for myself.

    I think we just need to pray for that woman, that she will find the help she needs, and that those making fun of her will come to the realization that they need to grow up and be kinder people.
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  • EILEEN828
    You probably could have said "How gauche, are you always this way?" to the snickering fools. And if they responded in a smart alec way . Then say "Wow, apparently so. What a couple of trolls." Maybe this isn't offering a polite way to be, but sometimes the situation fits. You are not required to comment on others bad behavior, sometimes that could get you into real trouble, so you did what was right at the time. I have seen people with their noses in the air before too, and it can feel insufferable to be around them. The good thing to realize is that they show amazing immaturity, little compassion and very poor social skills and they will pay dearly for it over the course of their lives unless they somehow have a revelation. One can only hope. emoticon
    1989 days ago
    so very true can relate to your feelings how others mocked me
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  • PHOENIX1949
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    1989 days ago
    It's hard not to flash back to your past when you hear/see stuff like that. Some people are just plain rude beyond belief and at times it's hard to know what to do. Sometimes it's right to say something to the rude parties, and sometimes it's best to just let it go because some rude people just don't get it and it won't matter what you say. I did chance saying something to someone at work not long ago. She came up behind me in line in the cafeteria and loudly said, "You've gained all your weight back!" All I could think of to say was, "Yes, I have." She didn't let it drop there: "Well, I think it's a shame that you gain all your weight back." This, in front of the cashier and everyone else in the line. So I just replied, "Yes, it's a shame and it's MY problem. And thank you so much for announcing it in front of ALL these people." That seemed to fix her; she hasn't said a word to me since and I'm quite happy (never liked her that well anyway). Some people are just too rude and stupid and that's how it will be.

    Hang in there, Kitt. It's hard not to flash back when you hear things that remind you of the past. Try to keep it in perspective, hold your head up, and keep moving. Some people just suck and we shouldn't let it drag us down.

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  • GLORYB83
    It is only rude & ignorant people who talk badly about a person who is overweight but that doesn't make it any easier to hear. If the overweight lady last night heard them and just kept on walking by, I would say it is she who has grace and manners. I'd be proud to call her my friend.

    1989 days ago
    emoticon Kitt! As you know, I went through this also when I weighed 350 pounds and I pretended like I didn't care, but I did feel it deep inside. I have seen this happen many times since I lost the weight and I feel the pain all over again. The only thing you can do is say a little pray for not only the poor woman who was made fun of, but also the women who had souls dark enough to not only pass judgement, but also to sit and laugh about it. emoticon
    1989 days ago
    Sounds like to me they have insecurities about their own selves.We have no right in this world
    to judge or critizize another human being.I have had regrets for not speaking up about things
    I saw and heard as well.It does make us feel so bad when we don't. emoticon
    1989 days ago
  • LINDA7668
    Words can be the deadliest weapon and people are so free with them. I pray that the woman being made fun of can see this for what it was and look past it. I know how hard that is, I struggle with it everyday. As for the women that were so rude, they need to look at their own lives before judging someone else. One day, karma will revisit them.
    1989 days ago
    Kitt, it is hard to hear people making fun of others. I totally understand. Those people should be ashamed for making fun of someone. Guess they weren't brought up right. You're so sweet for caring.
    1989 days ago
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