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Thursday, September 11, 2014

Have you ever compared yourself with someone else? I know I have
Have you ever compared your weight loss journey with someone else's? I know I have

I remember when I used to go to Weight Watchers, that was an issue for me. When I was losing consistently it wasn't an issue. But if I had a bad week or weeks and was struggling, I would start the comparison game -- "Wow, that person is doing so good. She joined after me and she's already passed me by on her total weight loss." Or "That person lost 50 pounds in X number of weeks, I've been coming for X weeks and I've only lost 30." I was happy for the person who had the success, but frustrated with and down on myself. Once I started the comparison game, it was a downward spiral. I would start to feel down after the meetings instead of uplifted and motivated. I began to question why I was paying money every week when I was't being successful. And would decide I might be better off doing it on my own - stop going - and eventually gain back all the weight.

As I was going through my SparkPeople emails today, I saw this quote:

And isn't that the truth?! Why do we waste so much time and energy comparing ourselves with others instead of celebrating the things that are uniquely you and uniquely me?

And that's one of the many things that is different for me this time on my journey. I am diligently working at NOT comparing my journey with anyone else's.

I may lose weight faster than some people and slower than others. That's ok.....I am losing it at the rate that is uniquely me

I may not eat the same things others do. But that's ok...I am eating in a way that is uniquely me.

I may not be able to do as much activity as some and may do more than others...But that's ok....I am working out in a way that is right for me....uniquely me

You get the idea.

And just for added confirmation of this idea. My daily motivation on SparkCoach was called "You are an Experiment of One." It was about how my weight loss journey is unique from eveyone else's and how I should focus on my individual lifestyle journey and not compare it with others.

I can get support and encouragement from other people. I can get ideas and inspiration from other peoples. But how I apply those things to my personal journey is uniquely me. No one else can do it for me and no one else would do it exactly the same way I will.

But even though my journey is uniquely me, I am so thankful that I have you, my SparkFriends, walking along side of me. I have learned new things and been inspired by so many of you! I can't think of better guides to have on my journey!

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  • AURA18
    emoticon emoticon Also
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    Great reminder! Very true!
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  • BETRHO48
    emoticon Great job. Each one of us is unique, does things in our own unique way, and experiences unique outcomes. Our uniqueness helps us give others ideas and support.
    2401 days ago
  • no profile photo CD14456645
    emoticon couldn't agree more, well said :)
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  • RHOOK20047
    Great blog. Keep up the good work. Just do what works for you, and you will be fine. One of my new adopted slogans is "Slow motion is better than no motion." I have severe arthritis in both knees and walking hurts, but I do it because I know I need to, but running a 5K is not in my plans in anyway shape or form! You are doing great!.
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    2402 days ago
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    2402 days ago
    You hit the nail on the head for me - I find myself doing that all the time. As you said we are all unique so why should we expect our journey to be the same as someone else's?
    2402 days ago
    i think it is great we are sharing part of our journeys together as well.keep on keeping on.take care and keep smiling emoticon
    2402 days ago
    emoticon It's hard not to compare ourselves to others, but doing so also destroys some of our hard mental work. You're right that we are all unique and we will do this in our own ways, because we're the only ones who know what works for us and how to apply it.
    2402 days ago
  • HOLLYM48
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    We are all unique in how we lose and what we look like and we need to see the beauty in ourselves and all that we have to offer!
    great blog! Thanks for sharing!
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  • LINDA!
    I also have played the comparison often. It gets me nowhere but disappointed. Thanks for the great blog.
    2402 days ago
  • BLUEJAY1969
    Thank you for the great blog! This is something that has just occurred to me as well since I started SP! I didn't ever want to go to WW or TOPS because I didn't want to be pressured by that very thing! With SP I am so happy when my fellow Sparkers lose and I don't feel at all bad that I am not "keeping up" with them! It's just like you said - we are all unique!
    2402 days ago
    Very well said! Each and every single person who ever walks on the face of this earth is unique so why would we ever think that our journeys toward anything would not be unique? That is so very true with our journeys toward being healthier happier individuals. Keep up your unique and successful journey in you own unique way!
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    Thanks for sharing!

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  • no profile photo CD14915039
    Great Blog !
    Yes , I have compared myself to many and then realized that I am me and that's OK - Cause I like me for who am - no matter what size emoticon - emoticon
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    Comment edited on: 9/11/2014 4:43:24 PM
    This is so true! Everyone is different. You have to make your own plan and do what works for you! emoticon
    2403 days ago
    Very well said! I have totally played the comparison game and when you feel like you are the only one hitting a plateau it can be very discouraging indeed. I is important to remember everyone path to health can be different and still completely valid.

    My brother recently lost 70 lbs. He went on some crazy 10 carbs a day diet and hitting the gym 3 hours a day. He looks great. When I told him he had inspired me to get back on track he started telling me how I should eat etc. I love him but there is NO WAY that kinda restriction is going to work for me. Luckily, I deflected it, by reminding him that I had already done it once and would be following the same plan I used last time so he backed off pretty quick. There are a million ways to get there and everyone gets to pick their own unique way! :)

    Have an awesome day!
    2403 days ago
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