What's he really trying to tell me!

Friday, November 14, 2014

Learned about an event happening in the town about 12 miles from us in the community theater. A local group called "The Skillet Lickers" was formed in the 1930's and were as popular in their day as Garth Brooks is today. The descendants of the original family in the group are still active today. Bluegrass style music. This is a play about their beginnings and the group in general.

Then online today I saw the notice about the Barbershop Quartet annual show on Saturday. One of the featured performers is "Lunch Box". Watched a video online and they are very entertaining. He's always enjoyed Barbershop even though most of what we heard was at church when a group was invited as part of their tour schedule.

When I mentioned this second event, DH said I thought we were going to the Skillet Lickers event (Fri and Sat night shows are available.) Told him the second event had a 2PM and 8PM show. We can't attend 2 events on the weekend??

Then he proceeded to tell me about his aches and pains and how he had been doing some hard work outside this summer and fall and was doing it even though he had pain. He's been on the heating pad a lot. Another time about 12 years ago we went to a Gospel Sing event and all he did was sit there thru his pain, hands over his face. Funny how it doesn't hurt when he's doing the activities he wants to do. I'm not insensitive to his pain, but it does seem like a convenient excuse.

When we go to a movie that he's not particularly interested in he sits there with his head in his hands. Afterward he tells me that wasn't really his type of movie and maybe I should go by myself if he doesn't want to see it. I have done that with about 3 movies in the past 10 years or so. Can't even tell you when we went to the movies last.

When I suggest doing things, he's not up to them. He never turns down eating at a buffet though. One time I told him, "Well I guess I'll just sit on this couch and wait to die."

I have suggested a cruise to Alaska, he's not interested, go by yourself he says. No one to go with I told him, would cost double for a single person in a cabin. I did go on a cruise by myself one time with the Sr. group at church. But now we have changed churches and go to a MEGA church and are not socially active there. They have small groups, but he wanted to drop out after a couple of years. Not active with the neighbors either, he burned that bridge a few years ago. I get to talk with my daughter's neighbors once in a while, if I happen to interact with them at bus stop pickup, so and so needs to come home from play time. Other than that it's the DD family only. When we lived in WI we would get together with my high school friend and her family. But that was only a couple of times, he didn't care for the husband. We had a study group we went to there and he was fine with that group.

We talked about going on a weekend trip to see the colors. First it was to be a weekend trip, then a day trip in the local area. I had something I HAD TO DO on the computer (it was the deadline day, would have done sooner if plans had firmed up) and it took longer than expected. So our fall colors trip was the ride to a restaurant and back.

I should just not do anything about getting tickets to either event and see if he notices.

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    emoticon I've learned that I have to plan things for myself sometimes and just do them solo. It's better for me than sitting at home. My husband isn't as adventurous as me and that's okay. I would book the tickets and go solo or take a few girlfriends with you and have a great weekend away.
    2204 days ago
    Maybe it would be more fun to just go by yourself or find a friend who is interested in the things that you want to do. It seems like your husband either doesn't feel well enough to do these things or doesn't want to and just won't tell you directly. Either way, you end up feeling bad when he drags along and doesn't have fun, so why do it?

    Make your plans and go with someone who feels as excited about the show as you do! You might be surprised to find that your husband decides he is feeling more interested in doing things with you when he realizes that the alternative is to be left behind!! Good luck and have a nice weekend! emoticon
    2204 days ago

    Comment edited on: 11/14/2014 1:32:06 PM
    emoticon Good luck
    2204 days ago
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