Sunday, March 01, 2015
Another member blogged about a transition for her father who has lost his ability to walk. My heart goes out to her and her father because such transitions are difficult.
Her blog reminded me of the transition each of my parents and their loved ones had to make when their health had deteriorated to the point of not being able to care for themselves or live at home. The transition for each happened years apart. In fact, my mother died several years before my father's own health began to deteriorate.
Now, several years later, I think about the same types of transition that are ahead for my spouse and me, transitions that are inevitable. It's not that I dwell on, or even think about to any degree, my own or my spouse's death. What does occasionally cross my mind is how difficult these future transitions will be for our daughter. We adopted her when we were more mature than many first-time parents, so she undoubtedly will be younger by several years when these transitions occur than I was when my parents experienced their transitions. Also, she is our only child, so she will be experiencing these transitions without the benefit of siblings to help her through it all. And, although she has much more than an average amount of intelligence, for a variety of reasons she is much less mature in some ways and has had much less experience with aspects of life in the areas of healthcare and legal issues than her age would indicate. It's a good reminder for me and her dad to get our affairs in order and find opportunities to share information and expose our daughter to these types of issues.
Another important goal to work toward!