Too much negativity

Friday, April 03, 2015

For the past two weeks I have started my day reading spark blogs. I find it a lovely way to start because I get to interact in a positive manner with people around the world on the same mission. I love helping people where I can or just saying, yep been there done that. I have made lots of SP Friends in the last month in doing so. Today I noticed a LOT of negativity on the spark blogs. Is mercury in retrograde? It covers all of the topics in this journey. However, there were so many of the ones that stick in my craw that I had to stop reading today. I needed to step back and take a deep breath. Then I was inspired for this blog.

Life is a journey, not a destination. Anyone who has traveled knows that there are always going to be diversions from the plan; flights are delayed, mother nature shows her mean side, things get lost or stolen, people don't show up, etc. It is the same for us on our journey of health. This is our first barrier in ourselves, accepting this is a journey and not a destination. You can never stop living, well until you die and then your journey has ended, but this is our journey: a healthy lifestyle.

A healthy lifestyle doesn't have an end point, well except that whole death thing again, so why do so many people look at this journey in a negative manner? This ranges from I didn't lose weight this week, I ate a hamburger, I didn't exercise this week, omg I have a holiday and that always involves food... what do I do? You live! You go about your life and you live it. This journey does not have to be about self sacrifice. Are you going to go the rest of your life never eating a hamburger again? Pipe down vegetarians, your yes doesn't count. Are you going to never eat your mom's cheesey holiday potatoes ever again? Are you going to demoralize yourself for the rest of your life when you prioritize life events over exercise for one day? That doesn't sound much like living to me.

This amazingly plays in to the daily challenge I posted today on two of my teams: do not compare yourself to anyone else today. You are you and that is why you are awesome! Who besides yourself will berate you over how you lived your life today? (if you answered someone besides you, we have something else to talk about but that is another blog) Let us start today over if this has been your pattern today. Let's start looking at the positive steps we took today, this week, this month, this year. One not 100% healthy living day does not negate those things. So instead start listing all those goods. I bet they outnumber the bad. Let that be our focus today.

Now, some of you might be thinking I am downplaying or belittling your feelings. No, I accept that we all have our down moments. We accept those feelings and blogging is a great way to get them out. However, I challenge you to focus on the positive. Even if you are blogging about a bad choice or a tough moment, end on a positive note. For example: so many people today were freaking about over Easter. Yes, making a plan is the right way to approach this especially if it's a hard thing for you. But this is Easter! End your blog and your thoughts on the subject with all the positive things this holiday holds. I may not be Christian now, but I was raised in a Catholic home. Easter is a day to celebrate rebirth, just as Ostara was for us pagans last month. Jesus came back to life for you. You get to celebrate this loving moment with your family. This should be a day of love and joy. Yes, it's one day you may not be 100% on your plan. But isn't the love you have for your god and your family worth more than the stress of eating a piece of pie?

Just remember when you get the feelings out and the peace comes back to your heart, we love you. You love yourself! You are alive, you are living, and you are living the best life you can provide for yourself. We accept that humans have flaws and are not perfect. But we strive to make good choices and accept the poor ones along the long journey of life. emoticon
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    Excellent blog!!! You're spot on my friend!!!

    1954 days ago
    Great advice. I like you outlook.
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