Medical Issues Dragging On And On
Saturday, October 10, 2015
Hubby and I were talking last night about medical issues. His BIL is currently in the hospital for a leaking heart valve and an infection. He is 88 years old. Surgery is risky but will be life saving. It took his doctors four days to actually pinpoint the problem. That seemed an excessively long to us, but we're not doctors. He is in intensive care and will be for at least another week.
The discussion of hubby's BIL started a dialogue between hubby and I about how my own medical issues have dragged on and on. Mine started with my Achilles' tendon in May 2014 and kind of spiraled downward from there. I know now that I should have pursued additional strength training for both legs, once I stopped doing water aerobics in the shallow water. When I had to switch to deep water only (because of my Achilles injury), my leg muscles got an aerobic workout but very little strength training. I don't know if strength training would have prevented my current situation, but it might have made diagnosis and treatment less painful and drawn out. The results of the MRI will probably give some answers.
I do know, as person who has chronic conditions, a new and acute issue can be very debilitating and depressing. An acute injury can be isolating and painful. There are days when I really miss company as well as days when I hurt so badly that I don't even want to talk on the phone. Neither of these are especially healthy emotionally. Let's face it, when pain and injury sideline someone, it can be boring to other people. After all, who wants to discuss injuries and pain for hours on end? I know I don't, because it is depressing. My poor hubby must be bored to tears! I have even started to watch things that don't interest me, but interest him, just to have something else to talk about! That has led me to the decision to seek out a counselor to talk to about the stress related to my health issues. I know that watching me wreathe in pain is very stressful for my spouse. I don't want to add tears over my situation to the mix. So, I will go and get a professional to help me deal with my situation and give hubby a break.
That doesn't mean that I will cut him out of the loop. It means that I will vent to a professional and get professional help in dealing with my own issues. Hubby isn't a mental health professional. If I complain to him about something, he wants to fix it so I feel better. In my case, only an orthopedist can (maybe) fix my physical issues. Knowing that he can do nothing to make me feel better, makes my partner feel helpless. I get that. The stress created by my health issues can be overwhelming. Those of you who have chronic diseases and conditions know what I am talking about. Sitting and doing nothing but wallowing in it didn't work for me. Part of the healing process is to fix what we can physically and learn to cope with the rest. I only hope that most of my issues can be fixed. We will see. I will cope with it either way. I have help and I am strong!