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Cheating vs. Unplanned Eating

Sunday, October 11, 2015

I've just completed a 44 day "Beck Trek Pink Reboot" with members of the Sparkteam "The Beck Diet Solution," by Judith Beck. Many of us blogged about a chapter a day as a group. It was my second time through the book...and it was awesome.

I dropped 9 pounds in those 44 days and now I find myself 12 pounds below what I consider my 60 pound sparkpeople loss for my maintenance anniversary (which just rolled around to 7 years).

Better than that (as if anything COULD be better than that), I changed my thinking about food and dieting. I'm encouraged and my motivation is renewed. The whole process is becoming "easier," just as Beck says it would.
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Now I'm going through the book again and reading the blogs I wrote for the trek as well as blogs my insightful sparkbuddies have written. I don't plan to blog every day unless some sweet gem pops out at me.

Like today...

"Cheating" vs. "Unplanned Eating"

Beck avoids the word "cheating" because she says it fosters an "all or nothing" attitude about dieting. We cheated....we blew it...we might as well REALLY blow it.

The word "cheating" is also associated with being "bad." Cheating on a test, a spouse, your taxes...all bad, and sometimes lead to life-changing negative consequences.

How many times have we said...I ate a slice of pizza, I cheated, I was bad, I am bad, I can't do this, why am I even trying?

And we look at it just as negatively as if the Federal Government was tracking us for tax the spiral of diet disaster begins.

Was a single slice of pizza really cheating? Did it really destroy all your efforts and warrant eating the whole pizza?

I think not!

Beck uses the term "unplanned eating." This concept is less negative and says to me..."It's ok, I just made a little mistake. Now I need to put the food in my tracker and get right back to my eating plan. It's no big deal. I'm not bad. I can do this."

I use the skills I've learned from Beck Pink to help me avoid unplanned eating. I tell myself "NO CHOICE," and "Oh well." I use my 4 Ds...Distance, Drink, Distract, and Detach. I read my advantage response cards that remind me why I wanted to lose weight in the first place, and why I now want to keep the weight off.

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    1664 days ago
  • NAVYMOM133
    What a great blog! Love the "No" to "cheating". I need to think about that and make sure I reframe my dialog with myself.
    1841 days ago
  • ALICIA363
    I followed Fifi's example and wrote down your four D's.
    1852 days ago
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    Thank you for sharing your journey! I like the 4 D's - but I would have to find another word besides drink - it makes me want a glass of wine!
    1926 days ago
    Love your 4 Ds and made a response card with them!

    emoticon about cheating vs unplanned eating.

    You are right that we need to support ourselves, not beat ourselves up or make some big deal of some little mistake. Put it behind us and do better next time. Instead, make a big deal of the good things we do to support ourselves.
    Feeding the wolf we want to grow.
    1926 days ago
    emoticon and these words unplanned can make a difference
    1926 days ago
    You are doing so well and sound so happy and positive. Well done.
    1927 days ago
    Unplanned eating...unplanned eating. As I was going through the Beck book, unplanned eating was a NO NO! For the past year of maintenance unplanned eating was a NO NO! Pre-planning and planning were my best BEST friends!!!!

    I'm so happy for you and your reboot! I have enjoyed the journey with you...seeing you get the process...get a little bit more skip in your step even (if THAT was possible...'cause you're already skippy!!!) And, of course, I have learned from you too.

    Now I am looking to the subtitle of Beck's book....Think Like a Thin Person. Yes, I want to think like a thin person. I want to BE a thin person and to STAY a thin person, I want to THINK LIKE a thin person. Which to me means, NOT PLANNING! Not HAVING to plan!!! I see the light of that way of life in the distance...far, far's just a speck in the distance on the road of "goals and dreams". There are many things on that road for me...but thinking like a thin person is right in the centre. I believe there is a freedom that comes with reaching this goal...a freedom from the obsession with food. A freedom from craving. A freedom from yo yo-ing. A freedom to use my energy for other purposes...towards other goals...toward having fun and enjoying life (not needing to eat an entire cheesecake b/c it's right in front of me).

    You have been so honest through this's honesty with ourselves that opens the gates to freedom...and you've got it SparkFriend!

    Sooooooooo happy for you! So very very happy for you!!!!
    1927 days ago
  • PHOENIX1949
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    1927 days ago
    I'm enjoying these "replays" and find everything about Beck worth hearing multiple times: there is always something new that registers "this time".
    1927 days ago
    Great blog!

    I like "unplanned eating" too, it is really neutral and non-judgemental.

    1928 days ago
    Keep your amazing work going! emoticon
    1928 days ago
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