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You are so unhealthy and fat!

Monday, December 21, 2015

At home with my Mother for Christmas holiday. All she does is yellow at me for being fat and living an unhealthy lifestyle. She weighs me daily and controls my diet while I am here I exercise at least 3 hours daily while here. I actually lost weight since she saw me last year. Yet I hear her tell me that I am heavier and wearing a larger woman dress size 5x (34-36) verse my actual woman size now of 28. Many times I have ask her to refrain from discussion of my weight. All she says is that I am worried about you and your health. Granted this is her home. She reminds me constantly she has the right to speak her mind. During her many tirades, I just say nothing. Though this constant negative talk hurts me any time I have asj her to refrain from discusding this she talks more and gets hurt, disappointed I am not married and thin I wish she would stop being a judge or God about me and my weight. Any ideas on how to live through the next 8.days with her?
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    Ummmmm, You are an adult. You can say NO. You can tell her to stop treating you like a child. You can pick yourself up and leave. You can tell her you don't tolerate verbal abuse. You can do a lot of things, so why don't you?
    1420 days ago
    You're allowed to say no, I would hazard a guess she isn't able to pick you up and force you to get weighed. Patterns continue because we allow them to, she has a right to her opinion and voicing it and you have a right to say will not be weighed under duress
    1421 days ago
    Words carry weight. Unfortunately, people (not all) don't realize this. Ive had the same issue except mine was with my dad. We still have yet to talk on the phone or see each other!
    1421 days ago
  • PICKIE98
    If you are not locked in the house, get out and walk. Get out and visit somebody. Walk out of the room when she abuses you. Refuse to answer her abusive and controlling questions.
    Next time, write her a letter or send her a card and enjoy your Christmas at home.
    Just my humble opinion.
    1421 days ago
    I agree with the long walks alone. People don't realize that the scars from mental/verbal abuse last longer than physical scars
    1421 days ago
    Oh boy. Good luck
    1421 days ago
    She sounds very abusive. Maybe some family therapy pwould be warranted here.
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  • no profile photo SUSANK16
    Wow - patience is a virtue. My mother was beautiful, but also extremely weight conscious, however she was not as vocal as yours. I think I would do the following - get the suit of armour on and then arm yourself if facts. Is she aware of the divorce rate, (on the other hand is she aware of the century?). Marriage does not equal happiness and in this century it does not mean a woman being taken care of. If you are exercising three hours a day -- may I suggest long walks away from her? Here are things I have used in the past in situations regarding my weight - one ignore the comment and change the topic, which usually brings the comment again and I would ignore and change the topic - eventually people get the message. A frank comment of my weight is not up for discussion. Perhaps, a Mom I love you and want to see you but perhaps I should stop coming to visit and we can phone instead because frankly you are making me miserable. You can be kind and loving to your mother and still maintain your independence from her. As an adult, she needs to respect you and your choices. Good Luck through a difficult situation.
    1421 days ago
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