Wednesday, February 10, 2016
facing a threatening person
By Jackie Stetser
I have been dealing with an adult bully in my school. Recently, I had to take a stand.
The other day, there was an incident at school that had to be addressed with a coworker. I have suggested different strategies of how to deal with the kids, but she just brushes off my words without any apparent concern. My heart was heavy until I wrote down my observation, and turned it in to the principal.
Now I have a lot of anxiety over the repercussions that could soon come, but I will not allow children to feel fear at school. Today is my day to grow! I can’t back down now. Not when an adult bully starts picking on the kids. My stomach has been upset, knowing that tomorrow when I go to school, I will see this person early. In fact, I spend three hours working closely with her. I have stress and anxiety over this situation, and my thoughts of how to respond to the tongue lashing that will surely come.
I know that this experience is a healthy one. I can relate easily to how kids feel when they are bullied, harassed or pushed around. The child in me wants to run and hide and quiver in fear as I used to do when bullied as a child, but I can’t. The 6 year old little girl is now a 60 year old woman, and I will stand my ground with firmness and respect.
Dealing with an uncomfortable situation is really no different than hiking a mountain. Once I make up my mind that I’m going to face the mountain and make the climb, it is a challenge that I can meet. Soon, I will reach a new summit in life, and have reason to celebrate. Maybe this is more of a molehill than a mountain. I won’t know until I deal with it head on.