This letter is my personal response that I doubt I'll ever send. The fact that Laura, the Mom, is my stepdaughter, means that I'll probably keep this response to myself.
Your request for our truck has taught me a valuable lesson about giving and receiving. Maybe by putting your needs ahead of our own, we have devalued ourselves in your eyes. Maybe I gave you the idea that you are of greater importance than we are. I seriously wonder if we have given your family too much already, and that is why both you and your Mom felt entitled to ask for our truck.
The request for the truck was hurtful, especially since you disrespectfully called your grandfather "The Old Man". We really could use your family's help with his winter wood supply. After your grandfather's knee surgery, we asked for some help with our winter wood. You and your family could not help because of other priorities. There's no way that we could get our household work done without the truck. The Old Man needs the old truck to take his Old Lady camping and mountain climbing. My heart is hurting that you would selfishly consider asking us for our work vehicle.
You request was presumptuous. What do you think your grandfather would drive? You were already given a nice little car. Drive the car, get a job, and save your money for your own truck. We will help you negotiate a good truck deal, but we will not pay for any part of the truck.
Learning to save money is a great discipline that will help you for your whole life. I am sure that you earned over $1,000 last summer. You told me that you have no money saved. Hopefully, this summer you will find a way to save some cash for a truck. If not, be happy with your little car.
The Old Man and I spent an afternoon hunting for the perfect book on Wildlife Conservation Officers. I don't believe that you thanked us for it. Please let us know if you like it. Our budget allowed us to buy you a $20 book. I felt as though you consider us inadequate as grandparents since you did not get a $20 K truck.
I'm really discouraged, Brandon. Your request took the "Merry" right out of my Christmas.
Do I need to ask: Are you trying to get in your "wish-list" for when The Old Man dies? If so, it was incredibly insensitive of you, and completely out of line.
The Old Lady.
My husband's response is to just leave the whole thing alone. This letter is something that helps me to sort out my own feelings.