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Monday, 2/5/18

Monday, February 05, 2018

The day was quiet and going so smoothly and then the phone call came from Isaac's coach. He was letting me know they were on their way back from the game and that he needed to talk with me tonight. Lots of negatives happened before the game and during--even towards the coach. All I can say is Isaac is lucky that this coach offers grace and forgiveness. I was disappointed that Isaac chose to go to the B team (more fun & games vs. learning advanced skill), but he's going knowing that the coach will not tolerate him rooting loudly for the opposing team or other negative behaviors. He won't be asked to leave the team, but he will see a lot of bench time. Here's what I was told by the coach:
emoticon He asked for more time in the game during the coaches pre-game talk.
emoticon He was trying to block the teams practice shots even with them asking him to stop.
emoticon During the game he yanked off his jersey and threw it down at the coaches feet.
emoticon Next he touched an in-play ball that was coming his direction. That brought wrath towards the coach by the other coach and the refs.
emoticon Then he started rooting for the other team very loudly.

The coach gave him one more chance to change his behavior and when he didn't he told him to go in the stands and root for the other team as he was not welcome to do that from their bench.

We did include Isaac in the conversation after a short time so that he would know exactly what was said and so he could make his decision before we left. The part I must be in prayer about is the feeling that Isaac will think he won as this is what he has wanted since the first week when he didn't get much game time.

On a brighter note.... I got my day's to do list accomplished. Laundry, paid work, PT exercises and school with Isaac.

Tim is fighting the waves of grief over the loss of his friend, but overall he is doing well. He was asked to write a paragraph about the pre-ACS days that he spent with Curt for the eulogy. He wrote a nice document. Made me cry. Service is Saturday afternoon. Was glad to hear his sister who is in missions in Papua New Guinea arrived before he passed away.

Maegann had a good day at school and she finally was able to spend time with Asher at lunch. He's been a bit distant since she asked to "just be good friends" instead of boyfriend/girlfriend right now. Glad she kept trying.

Tomorrow will be school with Isaac, dental cleaning for me and Maegann's counseling.
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  • JANET552
    Isaac certainly brings challenges. Prayers for him and for you.
    672 days ago

    WOW, kiddo!!! Isaac has given you so much on your plate and I am certain that he will understand but in God's timing and not ours. However, what you go through in the meantime is meant to strengthen you and not run you down.

    I am feeling Tim's loss as I just found out yesterday that a friend of mine that lives about 10 doors down from me passed away on Friday. I was really hurt when I found out, but not the kind of hurt that someone hurt me. I am sad and mourning her as she was a wonderful and beautiful lady.

    I delighted that you got your work done including your PT exercises.

    I am also happy that Maegann had a chance to speak to Asher and that they will remain friends. She has a good head on her shoulders.

    >- Nancy Jean -
    672 days ago
    I wonder if for Isaac that basketball is just a fun time for him and that being on the A team and learning the more advance skills just isn't what he wants in life right now. I know both of my kids did that with soccer. They stayed in the recreational leagues because they didn't want the pressure of competitive soccer in high school and the deeper commitment it took. Of course after the behavior he displayed, autism or not, I'd have had a hard time letting him even go to the B team. I'd probably ground him but since I'm not walking in your shoes, probably not really fair of me to say what'd I'd have done. Hang in there!

    672 days ago
  • CARRIE1948
    Isaac will have to learn about consequences of actions.
    672 days ago
    Sorry that Isaac chose negative behavior. I'm so glad that the coach was understanding and talked to you about it. I hope that everything goes smoothly today. Hang in there Janet!
    672 days ago
    I am sorry Isaac chose to go down to the B level.Hopefully he will realize it was not really a win.I hope tomorrow is a better day.
    673 days ago
    You are doing great with balancing all those issues affecting your family. It's a wonder you can get any work or exercises done with all that's happening.
    673 days ago
    Probably good for Isaac to experience the consequences of his actions, good and bad.
    He is learning and growing and testing people and his own limitations. That's just my 2 cents.
    673 days ago
    I am glad my kids are grown up. Sometimes I don't know how I survived except for the help of The Lord. You will get threw it.
    673 days ago
    Prayers for all.
    673 days ago
    That is a lot on your plate but you for in exercise high five.
    673 days ago
    Thanks for sharing
    673 days ago
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