Working out with friends/coworkers

Friday, March 02, 2018

So I've never really worked out with anyone before. I hate exercising anyway, I hate to be hot and sweaty and out of breath, and I especially hate to be those things in front of other people (Whether I know them or not). In fact I have a treadmill in my bedroom and when I'm working out not even my fiancee can come in, that's how strongly I feel about this. I just feel like when anyone works out its an embarrassing time, like catching someone use the bathroom! I look a MESS, and feel a MESS and smell like a MESS. Then I like to watch TV, read a book, or listen to music as I exercise it's very motivational for me, so the idea of working out with someone always seemed...awkward. Are we both going to be on our phones; listening to music? or should I not be on my phone? Will you want to have a full conversation? Personally I can't think of a worst time to talk, I'm trying to focus on not falling off of this stair master, I really can't focus on topics of conversation when I'm out of breath.

So for all of the reasons listed above I've never really worked out with anyone else. A few times in college but it was always either awkward OR we spent more time gossiping then we did exercising. I just find that I'm more constructive when I exercise by myself. Fast forward to the present, one of my coworkers is also getting married this year and we both always discuss diets and exercise regimen and we realized how close we lived to one another, she suggested we work out months ago and I agreed but, I've been tap dancing around it for weeks. Not because I don't like her (because I adore her!) but just because of the AWKWARD factor. Plus she's in better shape then me and I had a feeling she would want to do a more intense workout then I normally would. (Lo and behold I was right)

Well finally yesterday I agreed to work out with her, and I'm not sorry I did. We did much more then I would have done on my own. We did 20 minutes on the treadmill, 20 minutes on the stationary bicycle (each). Then 3 sets of 20 sit ups, 20 leg lifts, 20 arm curls, 25 squats, and 25 jumping jacks. Now I've been staying steady for the last two weeks with eating healthy and exercising and I've even lost a bit of weight but if i was by myself I would have been happy with the treadmill and the bicycle. So in a way I guess she did encourage me, she was very supportive, but she was also dominating and wouldn't take no for an answer. I smoke and I have been having some chest pain (which i am seeing a doctor about). So firstly I get out of breath very easy, and second my heart starts racing out of my chest and I feel like I'm going to pass out. When I work out alone I can sense this coming and this is when I'd take a break.

So after 1 set I said okay I need a break, and I suggested doing 2 instead of 3 sets. and she said absolutely not and stood over me while I did my sit-ups and refused to let me get up until i finished. (I mean she literally pushed me back down to the ground) I know that her INTENT was to to be helpful and encouraging. She threw lots of inspirational quotes my way but i did feel a little bullied. (Is it considered bullying, when the bully is trying to help you?) And she didn't have any mean intent in her, I think she just thought this was the best way to help me accomplish my goals. I suppose if i loose another pound I'll be thanking her tomorrow, and although I may work out with her again in the future I'm still convinced that working out by myself is best. I like to be able to go at my own speed, listen to my body, break and stop when I need to. Perhaps next time I need to mention about my heart problems so she's not so....aggressive.
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  • 922012
    What works best for you, works best for you - period.

    The only one who can exercise, lose weight, and eat the way you need to eat for you is you.

    Like you I don't enjoy exercise or "moving my body" as a group activity for many of the same reasons. I like to move to music and be alone in my own with my focus on how my body is moving and the music. Period.

    Here's to you figuring out what works best for you.

    I wish you much continued success on your journey to becoming the healthiest you can be!
    995 days ago
    Great plan
    997 days ago
    Help her to help you. She can motivate and not bully. Friendly open communication is best.
    998 days ago
  • CRAFTY120475
    Do what is best for you. Listen to your body.🙂
    998 days ago
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