I hope that one day someone will treat me as I have treated my Mom. Here’s what I’ve done:
Be regular in your visits and phone calls! I visit every week and let her know exactly when to expect me. She likes regularity, and so do I. She likes a daily phone call, just to check up on her too.
1. Give me a paid friend. I found the most wonderful lady to do crafts with my Mom twice a week. She takes time to listen to my Mom, and help her in any way that she can. Flo truly has a heart of love for my mother, and my Mom loves her in return. Even though my mom has attended a church all her life and has friends there, seldom do they visit. Don’t depend on others to provide a service on a regular basis. Pay for it! Appreciate all of her friends! Here is a photo of Mom with the Meals on Wheels driver Charlie. He is such a great friend to my Mom!
2. Take me places! I take my Mom to the grocery store, to our old neighborhoods, and to visit her friends. We also go out to eat often. She loves it!
Feed me fabric, and give me ideas of what to do with it. I cut the fabric, and help my mom sew straight lines. At 96, she is still making quilts for the family. Okay. I put the quilts together, but she does the basic straight sewing.
Tell me the truth. I let my Mom know what would put her in the nursing home, and she tends to follow my advice when she sees where she could end up.
Ask for my opinion. When I’m old, I will want to be a part of the process, just like Mom does now. Maybe I don’t always give Mom what she wants, but at least, I KNOW what she wants.
Hug me often. My Mom acts like she doesn't like it when I hug her while putting on her seat belt, but she’s just sitting there, waiting for me to take care of her. I think that she really likes the hugs. I may never know for sure.