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Friday, October 12, 2018

I often wonder if I’m a pessimist or a realist. I doubt that I’m an optimist! When life feels like it’s going badly, it feels like it’s going to last forever, and when it’s going well, I assume it’s only going to last for a short time. I looked back at something I posted on my caregiving site just over a week ago, and at that time, I felt things were really tough and it would go on indefinitely. I’d completely forgotten I’d written it or even that I felt like that. And in fact, now I feel good. The truth is, most of the time, things switch from good to bad and back again incredibly fast. Now when things feel bad, I’m training myself to think, “This too shall pass, probably almost in the blink of an eye.”

Are you a pessimist, a realist, or an optimist?
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    I love what you have to say. I have absolutely been in exactly that mindset.

    I have always been an optimist, but I do admit that as I age, it takes more work to be
    one and doesn't seem to come as naturally as it used to.

    I also think that being an optimist doesn't mean you're not also a realist. I just try to have the most elevated thoughts about most situations. When I don't, I give myself so much heartache!
    2 days ago

    Comment edited on: 10/20/2018 8:19:01 AM
    Hello Margaret,
    I'm a realist but currently, working on my optimism.
    I will be visiting Tokyo in 3 days time and hope we can connect while I'm there (for almost a month).. even just to send spark-mail to one another. I am so interested in meeting new friends and enjoying this trip of a lifetime (while also keeping to my health and weight loss goals.) So at the present, I'm definitely an optimist as long as I don't have pessimistic thoughts on the long flight from NYC!
    Hope your day is going brilliantly.
    Best, - Be
    2 days ago
    Margaret, I am exactly the same when it comes to bad times! I always think I'll feel bad forever, instead of remembering that every single problem I ever had came to some sort of resolution, with or without my input. And, like you, once I feel better, I tend to forget that I ever felt so bad. And as I write this, what comes to mind is giving birth. I know that I was in awful pain, so bad that I didn't want anybody to touch or even speak to me, but as soon as it was all over, I couldn't really remember how bad it had been. This is hard to express, but I think you know what I mean. Labor has been a metaphor for so many other painful things in my life, especially all I'e been through with my emotionally unstable daughter.

    So it's really good to take the time to remind ourselves of how fleeting feelings can be, and that we have to have some inner core that holds steady as we go through all these ups and downs.

    That said, I'm glad you're feeling good!
    8 days ago

    Comment edited on: 10/13/2018 9:24:04 PM
    I think when I was caring for my parents I felt the same . . . when times were good, I waited for the 'other shoe' to drop. And when it did it seemed endless, though always managed!
    9 days ago
    I am very much a realist, but also an optimist. I believe there is light at the end of most tunnels!
    I don’t tend to harbour false hope, and know that some things won’t get better.
    Sometimes, in all of our lives, when we feel overwhelmed by what is going on, it can feel like there will never be an end! And I agree with a blink of an eye, everything can change!
    9 days ago
    You are not alone on this matter. I too feel that I’m a bit of pessimist side. I feel I need to work on my human revolution part more so I can be humble and happy same time.
    9 days ago
    Oh oh oh - yes. Like mindfulness in meditation. You're taught to say "this is just a thought I'm having right now" when worry or anxiety or ruminating memories get caught in a loop. I'm trying hard to use that technique.

    I would say, anyone who gets up and tackles a day is an optimist. Unless she does it merely to proove to others that things will go badly. If you can hope - you have to be an optimist.
    10 days ago
    Hm, I don't think of myself as an optimist. But your description got me thinking about how I experience tough times etc. And I think when things are going badly I tend to automatically think 'This'll be over soon, just hang in a little longer'. So I guess optimist as you describe it! It helps that time has moved into warp speed now that I am in my 50s. Days, weeks, months speed by!
    10 days ago
    I am a realist, though it took awhile to become that way. It's not pessimistic to realize that some things will continue to worsen, a parent with dementia is not going to recover, but we can have some good days. I live One Day At A Time.
    10 days ago
    I believe you can make this choice and my selection is to be an optimist.
    10 days ago
  • no profile photo ELRIDDICK
    10 days ago
    Realist and aspiring optimist
    10 days ago
    Life is good.............mostly emoticon
    10 days ago
    I used to feel like I was always waiting for the other shoe to drop! Then I started meditating and doing a gratitude journal daily and feel much more mindful and alive each moment of the day!
    10 days ago
  • LOF7203
    I more "things are pretty good in life ". Life can tricky or awful, so always find one thing that is good that day.
    10 days ago
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