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All People Are Created Equal

Monday, December 24, 2018


Red and Yellow, Black and White, we're all precious in God's sight. It doesn't matter, fat or thin, it matters what resides within. How we treat ourselves and others is what will make our life meaningful and healthy. Listening to what another person has to say is a high form of respect.

In my family, I am looked down on. My political views are very different from my Conservative Christian family, and I divorced and remarried. No one would come right out and say that I am less than, but I'm reminded of a phrase that comes from a book:
"All animals are created equal. Some are more equal than others." is a phrase taken from George Orwell's book Animal House. It is a challenge to hold my head high when I know that people are looking down at me. I am learning to stick up for myself and respect myself in order to gain the respect of those around me.

My Christmas gift to myself this year is RESPECT and kindness to myself and others!
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  • FRABBIT
    Wishing you all the very best!
    350 days ago
  • L*I*T*A*
    Merry Christmas....................
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  • JSTETSER
    Thank you for your thoughtful comment on my blog. Merry Christmas! emoticon
    354 days ago
  • DESERTDREAMERS
    Too many people think tearing someone else down makes them the better person. Not!
    354 days ago
  • RKOTTEK
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  • SRWYLIE
    I thought of you tonight. We went back to our church in Evansville, Indiana, where we were members from 2004-2009. We had been away for 9 years and the warm welcome we received walking into the sanctuary were so uplifting. Being a gay couple in what appeared to be a pretty traditional church could have been awkward, but it was anything but. We have always felt so much love from our "family" at this wonderful place. There is room in God's House for everyone (the rabbi and his wife from our local synagogue also came - WOW). It was a beautiful Christmas Eve service and now I'm finally in the spirit of Christmas!

    Peace and love to you, my friend. I hope your Christmas is full of light and joy, and any "drama" is manageable. I'll be thinking of you! Big hugs always.
    354 days ago
  • HARRIETT14
    Jackie, I say this from the bottom of my heart, you are a very good person and I hope that I hear that you love yourself from your toes to the tip of your head. Please do not let what others may think of you if it's not kindness than they have a problem deep inside them which they do not care for themselves.
    354 days ago
  • GRAMMYEAC
    But, there must be chinks in the Conservative Christian armor. You have a beautiful relationship with your mother, and she must still hold some sway in the family circle. Find the chinks and use them to help others see you in a slightly different light. You have traveled far on the road to self-respect, self-sufficiency, and selflessness. Use your well-earned tools to stray yourself in the best possible light.

    Only those who have stopped learning have stopped caring.
    354 days ago
  • MILTONS_MAMA
    I'm sorry to hear about your family disrespecting you. I've faced a lot of that myself. Some people seem to feel better when they have someone to pick on. It's good that you're becoming more assertive! You shouldn't have to take that.

    Merry Christmas! emoticon
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  • GABY1948
    emoticon emoticon blog for sure! Thank you for sharing.
    354 days ago
  • WOOFERCOALBOY
    SUNNYBEACHGIRL is correct - fitting in at the price of denying who you are has a high cost. I don't think it;s worth it.
    354 days ago
  • LIS193
    What other people think is their problem. You are kind and gracious and a good person - don't let anyone make you fell anything less!
    Happy Christmas Eve!
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  • RAMONA1954
    I love this post. I'm in the same boat. I've always felt like an outsider looking in. I'm different. Yesterday a cousin said I couldn't be a xxx because of my views. I politely explained my thoughts on that. I'm really surprised she didn't unfriend
    354 days ago
  • MORTICIAADDAMS
    I totally agree with you.You are loved and respected by those who matter.
    355 days ago
  • BIRBKITTEN1234
    That's a good gift!
    355 days ago
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  • ROSALIE28
    The greatest gift we could give each other is respect! Treat others as we want to be treated!
    355 days ago
  • SUNNYBEACHGIRL
    I am not sure what is worse. Closing down your real self to continue to be a part of the family group or being your real self and an outsider of the family group. The holidays bring up the issues.

    Have a very Merry Christmas Eve
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  • SPEDED2
    Merry Christmas Eve!
    355 days ago
  • PATRICIA-CR
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  • LIVINHEALTHY9
    This reminds of the saying "You can pick your friends but you can't pick your family"

    It's a shame your family is so closed minded about things. I am sure none of them is perfect either. If we were all the same, we would be pretty boring people.
    Embrace your differences.

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  • GARDENCHRIS
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  • 1DAY-ATA-TIME
    Well said! Ideally we should cherish what makes us different and search for our commonalities. We all belong to the same family, the human family and have more similarities then differences.
    355 days ago
  • NASFKAB
    Very well said I feel those who look down on you might they be jealous of your happiness?
    355 days ago
  • CONTROUBLE
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  • MARTHA324
    Maybe you should sing the children's hymn "Jesus loves the little children... all the children of the world....red, or yellow, black or white, all our precious in his sight, Jesus loves the little children of the world."

    Always disappoints me when so called Christians seem to be able to blithely pick and choose what to believe and live. You live your values and just resolve to continue to show your family respect and love.

    Merry Christmas.
    355 days ago
  • 1CRAZYDOG
    Jackie, all I can think is that those who perceive you as less than they are quite simply are jealous of all that you are! You have a stable, loving marriage, a wonderful family, lead a healthy lifestyle . . . and you are kind and compassionate. THOSE are the things that matter and NOT what somebody else thinks. Furthermore, they are missing out on really getting to know a wonderful person. Personally, I feel very fortunate to have come to know you thru your blogs and appreciate the wisdom you share.

    I read your stories about all you do for your Mom and the relationshihp you have. That is a treasure, too, that perhaps they have not cultivated. That's their loss.

    I know, having spent 2 yrs. taking care of my parents in my home (and many more years traveling long distance to care for them when they still lived independetently -- when my other sibling lived exactly 10 min. away and barely saw them maybe every 6 mths.) I visited them daily when they were in memory care. NOBODY can possibly take the gratitude that I feel being able to do that for them. My siblings loss that they didn't do the same.

    Ok, sorry for the epistle -- just struck a nerve w/me!

    Hugs and wishing you, John and your family the best Christmas full of love, health and joy.
    355 days ago
  • ORTATK
    Well said, I wish you and yours the Merriest of Christmas times.
    355 days ago
  • IOEINC
    Jackie, you are such an awesome woman and you and your husband eem so happily married and in love. I'm sorry that your family can't or won't see that. That is their issues, not yours. You deserve love, respect and kindness, not just from your family but from everyone you meet!!

    Merry Christmas!!

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  • KATTHOMAS2
    Merry merry Christmas! Respect and kindness all around!
    355 days ago
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  • LENORE048
    You're such a awesome gift to God! I'm a better person by just reading your blogs.
    Thank you and have a Merry Christmas!!!



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  • MARYBETH4884
    Christ made a point to hang out with the "less equal" people. You may not feel comfortable in reminding your family this, but remember it. You've had a few bumps in the road and you are better now for that. You are loved and happy. God loves and respects you, so hold your head high and reflect that love. ENJOY Christmas, it's about more than a few frustrating relatives. emoticon


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  • POLSKARENIA
    Jackie, I faced similar attitudes, until said critic also divorced.... I am now very happily married and have been for over five years, to my fourth husband, my best and most wonderful.
    Divorcing my first husband was the kindest thing to do; as families we still send Christmas cards and share the occasional phone call. His second wife and I even chatted through our shared pregnancy.
    355 days ago
  • WATERMELLEN
    You have gained the respect of your Spark community with your kindness, compassion and wisdom.

    Day after day after day.

    Who you are is manifest in your presence.
    355 days ago
  • NEW-CAZ
    emoticon emoticon your views and other peoples' views may differ but if you offer kindness to another and not judge you are a person of value.
    No one should judge another, so many things influence our view of the world and until you have walked a mile in someone's shoes you cannot truly know them.

    Have a wonderful Christmas hun, follow your path and give respect to all....that's all anyone can do.
    355 days ago
  • MARYJOANNA
    Jackie, be assured the Lord above loves you and you are his child. It is not what people think about you, but it is important you follow God's plan for your life.
    355 days ago
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