January is very much here. It’s not necessarily New Years resolutions, as much as a fresh start. Fresh starts can begin anytime, but often this is a popular time for us to re-committ ourselves to doing better.
I have been very hard on myself the last year or so as my health conditions have increased, leading to guilt and weight gain. I have felt that no matter how hard I battle I will never regain control and have success in losing the weight I need to improve my health . I have upbraided myself for not being stronger in doing what needs to be done. It should be simple as I do know the mechanics of losing weight. I just haven’t “stuck to it.”.
I have been studying, pondering, and reflecting for weeks, and this is what has come to me.
When I was talking with my dietician she asked me how long I think it takes to develop a new habit. I told her that I thought it’s been said that it’s 3 weeks or so. She told me that no, it’s really 2-5 years! I answered that it made sense to me, and, I believe it. So, the pressure is off. It’s not knuckle down. Do the 3-4 weeks of perfection, and you have it made. Feel deflated if you cannot. Feel very guilty if the “bad habit “ rears it’s ugly head again. It’s like “what did I do wrong, I thought I had it made? “. The 2-5 years allows for growth into the new habit/s and lifestyle. It makes way for mistakes to happen and to be rectified over and over as needed. There can be baby steps and course corrections.
We set our course and direction. We take specific intentional action, mindful of our needs and abilities. We achieve some momentum, enabling us to continue to move forward, while listening to our needs, which builds more momentum. We pause and listen when we feel an adjustment is needed. We make the course adjustment without any self criticism. We build trust with ourselves and begin to feel better because of our better decisions and positive actions.
We are not looking for instant success or miraculous perfection. We are patient with ourselves, turning baby steps into building blocks. Harmony within and without. Learning from today to build a better tomorrow.
I am forgiving myself for being human and allowing myself to experience the growth process more fully. A dash of being realistic will not hurt either! (Grin). I will develop the tools I need to listen to my body and search out the behaviours and habits that I need to change or revise and not all at once. It will take time and effort but I am worth it. For weeks now I have known that in 2019 my focus will be, and now is, to take better care of me because I am worth it. Feeling burnt out for quite awhile now, I have felt overwhelmed by even the thought of such effort I would need to do that, to “ ramp things up”. I think what I am being led to realize is that by making mindful choices, and respecting and listening to what my body is telling me, I will get in rhythm and feel a flow within me that will grant me the energy to continue to follow through. I am not imposing my will but working with myself and increasing what I do have to give myself.
That is something to work with and to look forward to.